Opinions on our wording for information sheets

Honestly? I think it's too much.

WRT the timings, it could sound a little patronising telling them when to get there so as not to clash with your arrival. If you tell them the ceremony is at 2 then they know they need to get there before that.

I don't think you need to tell people they need to bring cash either.

I think the gift wording is fine though!

Mostly sounds fine to me, as a guest I would rather have more information than less I think. I assume you won't be sending the day guest info to evening guests (i.e. you have separate invitations)... for me personally I would send separate invitations.

I think we said, "we have negotiated a special rate with a local hotel, x..." just a personal thing but I think it maybe sounds a bit nicer than "we have managed"? Completely personal choice here, hope it doesn't offend!

I personally would leave out "so as not to clash with the bride's arrival" because it makes it sound a bit patronising, which I'm sure you are not Perhaps just "Please arrive at the venue by 1:30pm for a 2pm ceremony", or keep what you put and leave out the last bit.

Tiny little niggle but I think "dinner will be served at 4:30pm" sounds better than "by 4:30pm"... the latter makes it sound a bit like you haven't decided what time yet but you know it'll be before 4:30pm.

Think the rest sounds perfect!

Ah be as honest as you want - this is my 1st draft so all the tweeks in the world will be needed and I'm looking at from a different point of view so all comments greatly appreciated...positive and negative!!

Hmmm yeah it does sound a bit patrionising and that I am now a bridezilla haha!

A lot of it depends on the amount of people coming, and who they are.

If it's a smallish wedding (say 50 or less people) that you can easily organise as you need to, you probably don't need to go too much into the timings (although perhaps "Arrive at 1.30pm for 2pm ceremony" is fine). Also, if the evening celebrations start at 7pm, people should be there for 7pm - not wander in when they feel like it, surely? You shouldn't have to specify what special things are happening so they can turn up if they're interested, you've put things on for their benefit too and it shouldn't be a case of get there when you can be bothered - the height of rudeness in my book.

We're planning on sending a letter out a few weeks before the big day with the final details and timings on it as some of the details are still being tweaked - and a reminder of things like local taxi numbers.

If this is your 'first invitation' then perhaps you have too much information apart from perhaps the timings of the ceremony and evening, but in my book you can never help people too much with information. Ours turned out to be 12 sides of A5 in a little stapled book and most people have said how much they appreciated us doing the donkey work for them of suggesting accommodation etc.

Instead of "there will be a cash bar until 11", you could have "Carriages at 11" although we didn't put a finish time in, as people leave when they want to anyway!

Honestly- far too much info

are you having order of the day/service sheets at the venue- this will tell them the timings of the first dance etc- no need to put that on the invites. Yes say about what time evening plp arrive- but no need to details singer details.

defo dont need to put- not to clash with the brides arrival. i would jsut say ceremony starts at 2pm prompt.

How big are your invites!!

I wouldn’t put this in Although we are hoping to treat you all to a drink or two we cannot guarantee that it will last all night so please bring cash with you.

People don’t expect a free bar

I wouldn’t put in therefore please make sure that you eat a hearty breakfast.

Either- I just feel as they know the wedding isn’t until 2 they can look after themselves and feed themselves

Just my opinion though!

It's good to see how other couples are doing this - we're putting in some extra info with our invites that is along the same lines, including accommodation info and a menu option. Want to include a order of service too as the wedding is spread across a weekend but not sure you need to go into too much detail about performance times etc - you never know what might happen on the day.

Think making a point about eating a decent breakfast is a good idea though as it just reinforces the fact that guests will have to wait a while before dinner is served.

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What Rae said - information overload.

I agree with some of the others too much information

Hiya our info sheet is

If you would like to stay at *****

please phone directly quoting your with our wedding party

contact details

Rates are from *******

info about parking

You may wish to book else where torquay has alot t offer from b and b to 4 star hotels

If you are travelling by car post codes for church and reception

if you have any dietary requirments or need directions please included bith of these in your RSVP

|I feel pepole dont need strict instructions they have accepted cause thay want to be there !!!common sense tells them to be at least 15 mins early for ceremony

They will want to get to the reception straight from the ceremony for a drink and to be nosey at the decor etc so they will not need prompting on that.

they will always bring money as standard (wouldnt you???)

Evening guests know what time to arrive as its on the invite and I would keep the singer as asuprise for your guests

They all have plenty of time to sort out there accomodation internet or yellow pages will do. You have enought to worry about with out all that to.

I get married in Aug in torquay and my family fromthe midlands had no trouble finding accom with no help from me a tall

My advice keep it short and sweet leave out all the none essential stuff keep them guessing it will make no differnce to your day its an invite not a 5th amedment.

They will not let you down they are people who care about you and H2B

Eve xxxxx

Im not sure, i have on my info card inserts.......a bus will be picking guests up from such and such at 1pm and will depart from venue at 12am, hmmmmm do i need more info?

I agree that it's too much info. I can see your intentions (and I'm the type of person who does like to know what's going on beforehand) but some of it is patronising, particularly not clashing with the bride and eating a hearty breakfast. If they know the ceremony is in the afternoon, they'll know that dinner won't be served until late afternoon and if they're not sensible enough to eat before coming, well that's their own fault!

Also, I wouldn't put in what your evening entertainment is - leave it a surprise!

I do like that you've put the time of the first dance, though. A lot of people (OH included) will take an evening invitation that starts at 7pm to mean that you can turn up at any time from 7pm onwards, just like any old party.

Thank you all for your comments.........back to the drawing board! I have shown someone at work and they too feel it's too much info!!

A suggestion...

We had a lot of information in our invitations and general feedback has been appreciative. HOWEVER, it was on separate bits rather than all crammed in together. (We had pocketfolds, with two double-sided info cards and 1 RSVP card.) That way, people could easily locate the info relevant to them... people who were local, for example, could just ignore the card headed "Hotel Information".

WSS

I also think the bit about we may be able to treat you to a few drinks in the eve is unnecessary, simply state "cash bar" or I would expect as an evening guest to pay for my own drinks.

We have used an A4 sheet of paper for ours, big map on one side and the info on the other side, if people dont like it they can always throw it away ?

Have you thought about having a wedding website and having more info on there. We have a website with weddingpath.co.uk and it repeats the "wedding ifnromation sheet" info in a bit more detail and has some nice bits about us as a couple.

I was hoping to get all the information on front and back of an a5 piece of paper to be folded up and put in with invites along with a map.

Also I now have the dilema with the hotel that the closest one isn't available. I will need minimum 15 rooms, max 25 so have spoken to the local holiday inn who can do this.....problem is it's about 5 miles away so not exactly local. If I went with them (the other hotel nearby is still 3.5 miles away and would offer the same option) how does this sound. I would suggest cabs for all but don't want people paying £15 a cab and us needing 10 cabs when i can get a min bus/coach for everyone for cheaper!! Plus my family will all want to stay in the same hotel......so they can carry on the party when they get back to the hotel if I know them!

"For those of you wishing to stay nearby we have negotiated a special price of £x which includes breakfast at x hotel. We appreciate this hotel is not the closest to the venue but to help with that we will arrange for a mini bus to transport guests from the reception to the hotel at the end of the night.

If you wish to book a room please quote x and let us know that you will require transport so that we can arrange this.

There are also the following hotels and B&B’s in near vicinity should you wish to make your own arrangements."

A wedding website is great, but what if a lot of your guests, particularly elderly relatives, think that a web site means they need to get a feather duster out?

We put more information on our website than the invites but only to expand on what the invite contained, rather than a replacement for invites.

One of the reasons we decided to have a wedding website is so we could provide our guests with lots of information (www.rosieandjames.com if you're interested) so I don''t think you've gone overboard - better too much than too little, although I guess it depends on your invites whether it looks crammed.

I think your wording about the bar is lovely, and as a guest I'd much rather know where I stand. Just stating 'cash bar' sounds a little abrupt to me. People of course will not expect a free bar but I'm sure they will think it's a lovely gesture that you want to buy everyone at least 1 drink; would make me feel valued as a guest.

Anyway, I'm not very good at using 1 word when I can use 10 and from everyone else's comments I've probably given way too much info, but never mind!

Rx

Pretty much what everyone else has said. I personally think you've put too much detail in. It's a bit like a business conference timetable! As a guest, I like to know things like accommodation options (with guide price), venue addresses with postcodes (and directions from main road routes), gift list details and the likes. Our guests were parking in a field that cows would recently have vacated so I did suggest they bring wellies for the walk from the car to the road! The guests will know what time the service and evening reception starts as it'll be stated on the invite so no need to put any timings on the info sheet. I'd also raise my eyebrows at the '2pm prompt' comment! Free bars are quite a luxury these days and don't think guests expect it, so I don't think it's necessary to mention the pay bar.