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Order of service and registry office wedding?

7 October, 2014 at 22:22 Posted on Planning 0 6

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I know you aren't meant to call it that for a registry office wedding! Anyway, are you meant to have one? I wasn't going to bother but my mums just asked me if I'm having one and said it'll be chaos if I don't. I don't see the point! It's not going to be a long ceremony, I am having readings but I probably won't know the order in which things will happen until I speak to the registrar on the day so I don't know what I would write on it? My mum said people might wander off when they are meant to be doing something.... People are meant to be sitting and watching us get married and are unlikely to get up and wander off during the ceremony, I highly doubt any of our guests need direction on that.... I don't know though, is it something I should have? And what should I be putting on it if so? It's not a big job I have stuff I can use to do it but I don't want to make extra work for myself two weeks before!!

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Latest activity by FS84, 8 October, 2014 at 10:45

Beginner December 2014
EdenNI · 7 October, 2014 at 22:36
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I don't think I'm going to bother for our civil service. Was at a friends civil service a month ago and felt that people were flicking ahead and reading instead of listening to the celebrant and readings. They can be a nice way of adding another personal touch though.
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Paula @ Ollievision · 7 October, 2014 at 22:56
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The order of service is for church weddings really. It's main use is that is has the hymns in it. It doesn't contain an agenda for the day, it's only used in the ceremony. I don't think an OOS is what your mum thinks it is.

That's why they are not needed for a register office wedding.
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Wedding Photography By Bill Haddon · 7 October, 2014 at 23:23
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Yep, I have seen plenty of OOS used in a civil context and can actually be quite useful to give people a guide for what will be happening later, -- from a registrar wedding to a reception venue, it can have a map, or it can tell the time of photos -sit down time, there will be a guest book -please sign, time of first dance, whatever you want to put in there.

As for the ceremony itself it could have the words of the readings, notes like please do not throw confetti ( or whatever the venue says you can do) no photos during the ceremony please no uploading the face book during the ceremony. it can have the names of the witnesses/ best man/ bridesmaids names/ mums and dads, its up to you what you think people will need to know.
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Beginner August 2014
parma violets · 8 October, 2014 at 07:14
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I have an order of ceremony. Ours were a little different in design. We included silly questions about us and then information about song choices, reading and witnesses. Outside We had a giant chalk board with details of the day. Lots of people commented on this as they liked knowing what was going on. The chalk board was £10 from amazon. Hope this helps x
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Beginner April 2015
pammy67 · 8 October, 2014 at 07:25
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I'm doing one for our civil ceremony so that people know where they need to be and when during the day. N'o people won't get up and wander about during the ceremony, but they might welcome knowing what time photo's are, what time they need to be where for the reception etc and any other little snippets of info.

You don;t have to have one obviously, but have a look at how you see your day etc panning out and then think if one would be helpful. Some people like to keep them too

Not decided what I'mcalling it yet - it is currently OoS but I know that's not strictly correct. I might go for Wedding Ceremony and leave it at that.
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Beginner June 2015
kimiu · 8 October, 2014 at 09:01
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Because our ceremony, wedding breakfast and evening reception are all at the same venue, we are having an order of the day. It will include the names of those doing readings, members of the bridal party, witnesses etc, and may have the words to the readings for those who want to follow, but the main reason is that it will also set out a timetable for the day - what time people need to be at their seats for the sit down meal, how long they've got to "mooch" during photos, what time the first dance and cutting the cake is, etc etc. Hopefully it will just give people enough information so that they know they are not going to miss key bits by nipping out for a ciggie, or that they do have time to run back to their rooms to repair their makeup before dinner etc.

If I was having a registry office wedding, I probably wouldn't do an order of service, or whatever it is, simply because everyone will know when things are coming to an end, and presumably someone will announce where they are to head to next, if they didn't already know from their invites!
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