What are people's thoughts on a pay bar at a wedding? Would you begrudge it as a guest? We are on a small budget and planning an informal, intimate DIY wedding but I keep having wobbles about how people will feel towards these things. The only way we could afford the traditional things like providing accommodation, bridesmaid dresses,open bar etc. Would be if we put our lives on hold for the next ten years! I keep worrying that we will come across as stingy, but on the other hand I suppose it means the people who will come will be the ones that really want to be there.
Should I put on the invitation that it's a pay bar? Will people go without instead and not enjoy themselves as much? Most of my family will be travelling a long way.
