People asking for others to attend Wedding

I feel your pain! Why do people think it’s ok to expect their invite to include a plus one that a) hasn’t been around long and/or b) we’ve never met! We’ve had two family members ask to bring a plus one before even telling us their new partner’s name…
We sent invites to named people and have a website that includes an FAQ section which explicitly states no plus ones but that doesn’t stop people asking…
All we can do is stick to our guns - we have a hard limit of how many people can fit in our venue and I’m also not wanting to pay for people who we don’t know/probably won’t be around in a few months/years. I still feel bad that my bf of the time (who I had been with for years) is in a number of my brother’s wedding photos and don’t want the same thing to happen with ours!Be strong and firm - it is your wedding after all! Good luck x

You could add a note to say:


Plesae note this invite is for the named invitee/s only. Unfortunately due to space limits at our venue we are not able to add a plus one/children, so please do not ask as we cannot accommodate these request and will have to respectfully decline.
We have the same issue and have said partners are welcome to the evening and we will discuss with them nearer the time. The website is good as you can link partners so when they RSVP it will only being upnthem or the named people linked to them

We're explicitly stating names on invites and have put a section on our wedding website about the fact that the guest count is small so we've had to draw some carefully considered lines in terms of how far we'll be extending invites that asks everyone to respect our decisions and allow us to make these as a couple. That being said, we have left a couple of spots free (our wedding is 18months away) in case anyone in our bridal party that's currently single finds themselves in a serious relationship between now and the wedding. If anyone asks, I'm just going to say that as much as I know they'd like their new bf/gf there, we just don't have the space to do this so are only inviting serious partners who we already know well and can't allow any exceptions as we need to be fair to all our guests.

Just dont give them a plus one but if they ask just explain you dont know them well enough and your not trying to be horrible you know they mean alot to that person bit it's your big day. Maybe if you get your vows renewed in the future they can be there for that party?

Yes I am definitely going to stand firm

My response to any "oooh will I/so and so get an invite?!" is: I'm quite limited sorry! At £46 a head just for food I can't invite everyone!"

I'm glad someone else is going through the same dilemma! My FH's two sisters and cousin has asked this and actually, we had three people drop out just before, so we said yes. But... since saying yes, one sister has already split up with their partner (they were only together around 2 months) which is rather awkward. We've allowed Plus Ones for those who won't know others at the wedding, but I wish people would normalise only inviting people we know... we would only end up with half our guests we want there if we gave everyone a plus one!

Crikey! I’m amazed at people asking to take someone along. Glad this is here so I’m prepared with my reply if asked. I am just providing the names invitee and that’s it. Wow can’t wait to see who is brave enough to ask lol

I'm on the same boat, FH invited one of his work colleagues and to be honest that guy changes girlfriends like I change my clothes 🤣🤣, so he got an invitation just as 1 person, fast forward its past the RSVP due date and my fiance had to basically chase this guy down for an answer as we need to plan the tables, today he finally got hold of him and he said I will check if I'm available ( so inconsiderated as he had the inviation for 2 months) and he said I need to speak with the new girlfriend if she is going, I was like hmmm hell no, told my fiance to tell him that the invitations are not plus one and we actually have limited spaces, besides I don't want "weekly" girlfriends and people who I don't know at my wedding, the audacity of certain people these days is amazing 🤣🤣

We are the same, we don’t want people in our photos that might not be around in a few years, we don’t want to look back at photos and wish people weren’t in them, so we are going to do something very similar to this, we are going to say partners are welcome for the evening, but just close friends and family for the day.

Do it! We wrote specific names and I'm now wishing I'd put a note on as we've had our first, "is his girlfriend invited?." Wouldn't mind but it's a cousin he barely sees who's kicked up the fuss. FH caved and set a precedent so his other cousin has a plus one now too... 😒

We are feeling your pain. im getting married in 10 days. When we announced our date, I personally contacted my invites and said no other halves because id never met them and I didn't want randomers pitching up and staring at the walls in the evening. Unless they actually made an effort to meet me first. Which is what tends to happen. Not only that, I don't want people starting at me at my wedding and criticising my dress. I know that the ones I invited would never do that. To reinforce it, I said our numbers were very limited and we could only fit 50 of our friends at the wedding breakfast. Numbers limited are a good excuse. My friends were great about it because they relished the thought of getting away from their families after being cooped up with them over lockdown! Unfortunately my partner has now told me that his ex work colleagues have asked to bring their other half (randomers) and he has said yes. At 70 per head I begrudge paying for other halves after having agreed with mine that they should not bring theirs.

Sorry for the rant. And now having made a list of photographs I want, one is all girls in one with us. But there will be 2 randomers in there and I dont want to appear rude by keeping them out. People only want to bring their other halves because it's a black tie affair. What do I say to them or how do I word it?

This subject is really becoming annoying from my part and I'm getting so fed up 😖😖 today my fiance cousin texted him and asked if he could bring his new girlfriend ( I knew he was going to do this as over the weekend he posted on Facebook that he had a new gf, so I spoke with my fiance and we agreed no more people) well today my fiance completely threw me under the bus replying to his cousin that he doesn't mind but I'm the one who doesn't her there, (true as I do not know her at all) I'm completely fuming as he is portraying me as this massive b.... over his family and I just had enough with this wedding, so I texted him from now on he can invite whoever he wants but he also needs to finish the planning the venue and so on, I'm completely done with this wedding and I do regret not having a simple thing. 😖😖😖