People stealing the bride and groom's limelight on the big day...

Never personally seen it but:

best man proposing during his speech

a guest/bridesmaid annocing they are expecting

things like that

i would be gutted and angry!

Bloody hell i'd be so p***ed off if someone did that at my wedding, surely you would know never to do something like that at someone else's wedding!! It's a bit different if someone notices a girl is not drinking at a wedding and guesses they are pregnant, not much you can do about that i guess. But to deliberately plan it, i.e include in the best man speech, i'd be so annoyed and hurt that someone upstaged your one big day!! Grr...

I would be soooo anoyed too! Until i read this thread it hadnt occured to me anyone could steal our limelight but now i'm scared lol. One of my friends was so nice she even asked me if i minded her wearing a cream dress so she didnt have to buy a new one, i thought that was thoughtful :-)

Omg such a scary thought, i would be seriously upset!!! what sort of person would do that n your big day??

karina

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My best friend and her husband told all of the guests at her mother-in-law's wedding reception that they were going to start trying for a family. No-one really cared, the bride and groom didn't even know they were doing that and two years on, they still don't have a baby!

... Maybe they'll announce a pregnancy at my wedding reception in August!

I dont get people announcing that theyre 'trying' - they might as well say to everyone 'guess what?!! We have sex!!!!'

erm thanks...didnt really wanna know that hahaha

Unfortunatly i have my own story to tell of a similar nature...........

My sister in law was told not to try for baby (due to previous pregancy problem) for at least a year due to possible health complications for her and baby. However, she was desperate to have a child for our forthcoming wedding so she kept trying, against the doctors advice. She fell pregnant, had her baby in summer.

I found it wierd that she had not planned a christening or allowed family to see her baby. Until the other day she announced the christening is just before our wedding!

The worst thing is, she got maried after being together with her boyfriend after vv short time (we had been together for 2years at this point!) She told my fiance not to propose because it would 'overshadow her wedding'. My fiance waited 8months to propose because she asked him not to!

Worst thing is, ive got sneaky suspicion she is pregnant again...... i think we can all guess what may happen...

Exactly WSS. Seriously, I'd be happy for my friends. I don't see it as stealing my big day. But then I've only just started planning my wedding so perhaps my feelings will change as I get more in to it!

It's up amongst the "unforgiveable sins" like getting drunk and starting a fight, as far as I'm concerned.

Got a big announcement to make? Wonderful. Just don't do it at our party or our expense. Chances are a lot of the people there won't even know you, or care about your announcement, so throw your own party please.

Our day, the focus should be on us and us alone.

Went to a wedding last summer where one of the ushers (drunk by the way) took the mic from the dj and poppd the question to his lady there was a massive pause until she said yes i think she felt like she had to say yes! It was very cringe worthy and did steal the limelight a little

If my bridesmaid announced she was expecting then I would be absolutely overjoyed. I know she and her husband have been trying and they're going to be such great parents that I honestly couldn't be upset about it.

That said, there's another guest who I gather is planning to try to get pregnant and I'd be mightily p***ed off if she did the same, but that's partly because she announced her engagement at the dinner when I was going to announce my pregnancy and I think doing it twice would be a bit much!

That reminds me of my sister. Her sister in law has been told not to have any more kids on health grounds, but over the years every time my sister has got pregnant she has become pregnant as well within the year!

If I am honest it wouldn't really bother me if someone announced anything. I may get a bit annoyed if there was a fight but I know my friends and if anyone started they would very quickly be thrown out (I have a marine, an ex bouncer and a couple of gym fanatics amongst my friends so good luck to anyone who tries starting a fight).

I wasnt at this wedding however someone i know proposed to his girlfriend at their friends wedding!

I wouldnt be terribly bothered but i do think its bad taste.

Rather than people, I have to say all these added commerical attractions that people keep wanting to add to their wedding for me would

a] take the spotlight off the bride and groom

b] take it off the fact that its a wedding & that guests are there to celebrate your marriage.

I'm talking things like casinos, overally extravigant favours for everyone and horseracing

I'd be absolutely horrified if my bridesmaid announced she was pregnant at my wedding - she's only 13!

'Announcing' is different from having it just happen. For instance a pregnancy that is found out because the lady isn't drinking is different from the Best Man standing up and telling everyone during his speech. The only girl who is allowed to announce she is pregnant is the bride!

At my first wedding a friend of mine came and found me and thanked me for inviting her - she's just used the romance of the occasion to pesuade her hubby to try for another baby! It was just me she told though, and I was happy for her.