Photos of wedding on Facebook before evening guests arrive!

To be honest I don't see the issue. Im more then happy to have guests post pictures before my evening guests arrive, that's if they get a chance to muck around with their phones and the only time I hope this would happen is while we are having our formal photos done.

I just see it as their excited and happy so their posting photos of their own memories.

Maybe it dosnt bother me because most people have seen my dress apart from OH anyway, I don't know. I just think I'm pretty laid back about it all anyway! It's not something I'm going to stress over.

It dosnt bother me that the evening guests would of seen most things before they arrive as to be honest it's a wedding, half the time they all look pretty much the same.

I know some ladies are really against it but this is just my opinion.

I've put a note in my order of ceremony asking that guests refrain from posting photos until after the reception. I'm also going to ask the registrar to announce it to make it clear.

Bekki- am I correct in thinking your wedding is spread over 2 days? 1 for the ceremony and 1 for the reception? I can see why you have asked your guests to refrain in this senareo.

Yep, that's right and its 5 days between them. I wanted my evening guests to see us as if it was the same day so if the photos go on facebook, that will ruin it! We intend to make an entrance ?

Oh wow, bet you can't wait

It's getting more & more common nowadays to ask guests to have an 'unplugged' wedding. Especially during the ceremony.

It's up to each couple at the end of the day but I do see why some ask for no Facebook pics until after the wedding. Be there, enjoy the day. Take photos by all means but there's really no need to share it with the world instantly. Especially if you've taken a less than flattering shot of the bride!!!!

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It wouldn't bother me really, I have friends all over the world who won't be able to attend so it will be nice for them to see some pics. And I have to say if someone I know is getting married and I'm not going I can't wait to see the pics on FB! (Sad I know but I LOVE seeing the pics!)
I think what bothers me more is when people do upload their pictures that they've taken at someones wedding but it's all just pictures of them posing or having fun and no pics of the bride & groom or any of the details. If someone came to my wedding and put pics on FB but I wasn't in any of them I would be furious! lol x

Couldn't agree more Martin C - I do not photograph well, what I see in the mirror is not what I see in a photograph!! This is my biggest fear - I do have the approval first tag but that only stops it showing on my timeline. people will see it if they are friends with the poster!!

Plus people can be FB obsessed I want to check my FB in the morning of our wedding to see well wishes but I know I'll have to hand it over to my sister first as my future sister in law will be with my OH and will be taking piccies (FB obsessee) and I don't want to see him before the altar!!

As I'm only having a small wedding a lot of my good friends can only come to the evening reception. I don't want them to see pics on Facebook before they see me so I'm asking people not to upload until the night time. When the evening reception is in full swing they can do what they want but I don't want them uploading anything during the daytime. I know this probably won't happen and I can't control it, I'm just hoping they will respect my wishes

We're thinking of having an unplugged ceremony, so getting the registrar to say no photos during this section apart from the signing of the register bit. Our friends did this and it was quite nice. I mainly want to do it as i want to see people's faces as i walk down the aisle and not a mass of phones/cameras starting back at me. I hate having my picture taken so would make me feel uncomfortable staring back at so many cameras when I just want to see my fiancé at the other end of the aisle! I don't think i'd be too bothered if guests posted pictures later on, although I don't think we'll have much of a problem with our guests as most don't massively used Facebook and all my friends weddings I've been to it's taken a few days for pictures to appear on Facebook.

I can understand why people might not like it but to me it doesn't bother me at all!

ill be glad that guests are taking photos that I otherwise wouldn't have seen and getting photos of details before they get disheveled throughout the day. Xx

I can understand why some people would be annoyed by it, especially if they are putting up pictures just after the ceremony has finished or even before its happend or finished, or a really horrible/unflattering one. I remember going to a friends wedding and the best mans mum put up a pic a couple of hours after the ceremony, but I think its a sign of modern technology- Pictures will be shared as soon as it happens (although I do think its sad when people are on honeymoon and they are updating facebook every day or so with pictures from the holiday)

MrsHDouglas also had a point {sorry can get it to quote it} about photos from weddings without the bride and groom- it seems a shame they people cant be bothered to even get one or two pics of the happy couple

Also I get why people want unplugged wedding ceremonies, but i know some guests would like a pic they took themselve for memories. Because at the end of the day how many of the guests get to actually see the professional photographers pics & then be able to save them to look back at?!

I'd hope a lot of people get to look at the ones the professional photographers took. Most togs have online galleries that we expect to be shared with family & friends.

I don't think anyone objects to guests taking photos but sometimes we need to think if it's appropriate. Whacking a load of photos onto Facebook whilst you are there saying what an amazing time you're having seems to be a modern day thing. If you really were having such an amazing time you wouldn't be sat there tapping away into your phone. Save the photos and just post later when you're home or back in your hotel room.

Lastly I've seen some incredible sights at weddings. From the guest who jumps into the aisle to get their shot without realising he's getting in my way. To those who feel the need to bring an ipad to the ceremony and hold it up to video it. My personal favourite though has to be the guest who felt it was appropriate to play StreetFighter II on his smartphone all the way through the church ceremony.

I was at a wedding reception last yeah we're the bride and groom were so busy talking to their 100's of guests that I didn't get to talk to them at all. When we walked in, they were nowhere to be found! Every time I went to say congratulations someone else would jump in. I can't say I stood there and took photos of anything to be honest. Such a shame we didn't get to talk to the bride and groom though, but I just wanted to say this so you can understand why *sometimes* people don't manage to get a picture with the happy couple.

Don't get me wrong I do agree- if your having a good time then you dont need to add your whole album of pics & I totally agree people forget their brains when trying to take pictures (i remember you all showing/telling us of guests at weddings) but some people do want to take a photo of the first kiss for example or as she walks down the aisle.

From the weddings I have been to I think only 1 has put up the professional pics on facebook, and I cant rmember any others sharing the link/password on fb. I do think its a shame if some of the guests dont get to see the prof pics.

It was directed at the fact people would take loads of pictures of themselves and not even manage one of the happy couple, posed or not (ie cutting the cake, having prof pics done, first dance etc)

Heres the orginal post from MrsHDouglas :I think what bothers me more is when people do upload their pictures that they've taken at someones wedding but it's all just pictures of them posing or having fun and no pics of the bride & groom or any of the details. If someone came to my wedding and put pics on FB but I wasn't in any of them I would be furious! lol x

Yeah I do get what you mean now. I'd like to think our friends and family will have photos of us too, from the first dance and what not! Infact I'm relying on some of them to capture some angles out tog wouldn't of.

I really had a thing about this for a few reasons.... a very close friend was unable to attend as she is in new zealand so I wanted her to see pics before complete strangers did, there were lots of children at my wedding and not all parents want their kids pics on social media, and I have lots of issues with how I look and also didn't want strangers seeing pic of me and my husband before I did. I sent all day guests a wedpics invite and put the details in a pretty frame on the bar, wrote a message on a chalkboard explaining about absent guests,and deactivated my facebook for 3 days. Our registrar also asked guests not to take photos during ceremony as I wanted to see my friends faces not a load of screens. In essex the registrars do this a lot and I have been to 2 weddings with tje same request.

It worked pretty well. Only 1 day guest posted pics,even after I explaimed whyy facebook didn't seem to be working, and 2 evening guests did too but I just blocked those from my feed and pretended they didnt exist. The first pic on my page is one i chose .Thanks to wedpics we have hundreds of photos amd absent guests were able to see the pics before too many random strangers. It also means guests can see all the pics posted by other guests. Personally I find it very rude that people think an invitation to a private event means they are free to post pics of anyone else there.

I want people to take pics and will encourage people to share them. BUT not until after the evening has started!!

I really don't want people to see me / everything else before they show up!

Ive heard horror stories on this subject, I remember someone telling us that some idiot bridesmaid uploaded photos of the bride before the ceremony!

I guess at the end of the day it's all down to how the bride & groom feel. I just landed back in the UK after 10 days in Turkey to celebrate my best friends wedding. As I was a bridesmaid I had my H2b take the camera and he was under strict instructions to get pics of everything from the brides entrance, family shots, signing the register etc... I took over in the evening and made sure I got pics of the dances, cake cutting, speeches etc! As it was a DW not everyone could attend so the bride wanted people to take as many photos as possible and she didn't mind them going straight on FB. I don't think it would bother me if photos went straight up but we are heading away for our honeymoon the next day so won't even have time to think about it really plus I keep the number of fb friends I have quite small and my profile is as private as possible.

I have to say as a wedding obsessive I always eagerly await weddings of people I know and can't wait til people put pics on facebook! I'm always disappointed if there's not many pics! lol

I agree with ruby about why the guest post themselves... its just manner

I could care less if my guest had dozens of wedding albums without us in them of just themselves getting ready, posing with cocktails, sitting in the sun and so on but I HATE camera phone, drunk night out, cheep disposable camera pictures etc...

we have some pro togs coming that wouldn't bother me if they took some but quite a lot of my guest are known for taking millions of shitty images of everything everyday that are blurred, miscropped, badly lit or just images of bad subjects and thats not what I want of my wedding, looking back and seeing a million terrible images of me pulling odd faces, close ups of my drunk aunt Ruths badly dyed roots and smeared mascara but half of her head missing, images so over exposed or blurred that we look like ghosts or of my fat arse/rolls jiggling etc... if anything it would ruin my happy memories making me think 'god, did we look that bad'

We are asking people to take as many pics as theylike, just not to put any on facebook until after the wedding. I can't put my finger on why it bothers me but it really would lol