Planning a wedding while trying to conceive!!

It's not something I'd like to do by design if I'm honest. Which is he most important to you, having a baby now or getting married next August? Personally I'd just do one for now be that get married then try for a baby or have the baby and then plan a wedding. You don't know how long it might take to become pregnant and having a small baby and arranging a wedding and trying to get to a not-pregnant body state in too short a time span spells out too much stress at times when you should be enjoying either your pregnancy, new baby or wedding planning. Jmho xx

I would echo what Pammy67 has said, personally there is no way I could consider both at the same time. Pick the most important to you both and focus on that.

I also wouldn't do both at the same time. I would want all my time and focus to be on one, and then the other, but not at the same time.

Honestly? I couldn't think of anything worse. Two (potentially) stressful situations side by side sounds too much.

What it the plan if you don't fall this month? Doesn't everyone ttc 'plan' to fall quickly? Rarely happens in my experience. Would you then stop trying?

As pam says, decide what you would rather, another baby or a wedding.

Depends if you want a big all out bash or a small event with small numbers. If you take on a lot of DIY tasks and have hundreds of guests it'll be a nightmare. If you go for a package deal or hire a planner then most of the work is done.

Would you still get married while pregnant? if you don't lose the weight afterwards will it really be that big of a deal? Getting married and having a wedding aren't the same thing. If it means so much there's nothing to stop you from getting married at the local registry office and having a meal with friends and family after.

Honestly, I think that you need to sit down with your partner and discuss it.

Unfortunately babies don't come to order and you need to decide what is most important as the others have said.

prioritise either baby or wedding but make a choice. You can have both but maybe not at the same time x

Do one or the other. If having another baby is really important to you then do that first. A wedding can wait and it just wouldn't be worth the stress if you booked your wedding and then were due around the same time!

I wouldn’t plan to do it this way if it was me unless I was getting married aboard and someone else is taking care of alot of things.

I’ve been so stressed recently because of the wedding planning that its brought me to migraines, I wouldn’t wish to put that on an unborn baby at the same time.

I would do one or another, you can always quickly do a registry office wedding so that your husband and wife and then maybe look at planning a blessing after the baby is born so you can plan and stress after the baby is born.

Wow, yes, I agree with what's been said before, it sounds daunting to me doing both at the same time. Indeed it does depend on what kind of wedding you're planning, but even if you keep it very small you'd still have some stress, and you'd have to fit in a dress! (Well, you don't have to, but I'm assuming you want a wedding dress.) There are just so many unknowns here... what if you only conceive when your due date is close to the wedding? Or what if you give birth a few weeks before like you're hoping, but (God forbid) something doesn't go completely according to plan and you or the baby need to stay in hospital for longer? The possibility of actually having to cancel the wedding when it's all planned would be so scary to me that I'd rather postpone one of the two. Which one is best for you time-wise is very personal (well, all of it is I suppose!) but I guess it's easier to make time for a wedding than for a baby at other points in your life/career! You could consider doing a very very small (registry office) wedding now, and a big celebration a bit longer after your baby is born, but that might not be your cup of tea of course.

I have no experience of having a baby, but I know that planning a wedding can be time consuming and stressful! As you've already had a little one, try and base it around your experiences from last time. Would you have enjoyed planning a wedding, having hair and make up trials, menu tasting, making lots of choices and decisions (after all the research) while you're pregnant? What about once you've had the baby? Trying to get back into your dress, getting everything finalised, paying for everything, staying sober on your wedding day (if you're breastfeeding) finding time for you or other members of your party to look after baby? And what if you don't catch straight away, how late are you willing to go?

One of our girls on here recently got married while 8 months pregnant, she looked radiant! I'd have said that was the better way round. Personally, I'd either bring the wedding forward and then try, or postpone the wedding a little. Good luck whatever you decide though!

It's a very personal decision but honestly if I was in your position I would postpone the wedding for a year.

As others have suggested there are a lot of unknowns here that could cause a lot of stress but again a lot would depend on what type of wedding you were going to have. A registry office and then down the pub type wedding would be pretty straightforward.

Good luck ttc, I hope it happens quickly for you.

I wouldn't plan it that way - but I would also not be willing to postpone getting pregnant for a year just for a wedding. So what I'd do if I was you is at least wait until you are actually pregnant to set the date. Or get married sooner and then try for a baby.

Of course it depends on your health etc, but it could easily take a few months for you to fall pregnant, and then you might be due right around the time of your wedding? That would be too much of a risk to me. But once you are pregnant and know when you're due, you could easily plan your wedding for, say, 6-8 months from the birth.

We are getting married this month and we want to start trying for a baby next year. However, I have PCOS so it could be months or even a year until I fall pregnant. I wouldn't want to postpone getting pregnant any longer, because I am 32 now and might take a while to get pregnant.

Thankyou ladies ???

My partner is quite happy to go with either the wedding or baby, another baby is definitely what i want first! I think i new it would have been a crazy idea, just wondered if anyone had actually done this? It would give us time to concentrate on the baby we will hopefully have and our little boy too!! ??? I always said i would wait to get married as i didnt wanna stress myself out or put pressure on myself to lose my baby weight, but recently my partners been talking about getting married so i think he put the crazy idea in my head!

I always thought I would have my wedding before planning the pregnancy. But as life always teach us ....things don`t always go as we want. Now I find myself in the situation when I conceived the baby before even having a wedding date planned.

Apparently I'm nuts then ?? I have an 8 week old baby and get married May 13th. When we originally booked the wedding it was for last year, and we decided we would stop TTC before things would end up clashing - as in baby being due around time of wedding. We decided if we had to hold off, we would only wait a few months and then try again for a couple of months as I didn't mind being mid pregnancy. If it didn't work within a couple of months, we then said we would wait again until after the wedding, as I didn't want to be in the early stages of pregnancy on our wedding day (bad experience with early losses). We postponed to this year after our fourth loss, as with the time I needed off work (had to have surgery too), we just couldn't afford it. We then began IVF last March and fell with a successful pregnancy on our first go, resulting in my little boy.

My dress was too big before pregnancy, and now I can't do it up lol But I had a delayed recovery from birth due to infected stitches and anaemia etc, so couldn't get back to normal as quickly as anticipated. To be honest, almost all of our planning has been done after baby arrived and we've found it ok and not too stressful. The only concern is losing the baby weight from my hips so I can zip up my dress lol Again, I'm not panicking though. Push come to shove, I'll buy a pretty but more casual dress and people will understand, and we will still have a lovely day! We're having our baby baptised during the ceremony too, which makes it feel extra special to me ☺

Do what you feel is best though. It very much depends on how you imagine your wedding day to be, and how important it is for you to look a certain way/how much pressure you will be putting on yourself etc. I did also go to a wedding reception of someone else on the same timescale after baby, and she looked lovely and they had a fab day. I also know someone else who is pregnant and booked a small wedding next month in a registry office with a meal afterwards, and then they will have their dream wedding and reception in Spain in 2018. So that's another option. I also know people who have got married mid to late pregnancy. Good luck whatever you choose! Whatever feels right to you is the right decision xx