Hi everyone
So having a huge problem with one of my bridesmaids. It's been eating me up to the point of anxiety. I need to un-ask one of my bridesmaids. These are my reasons and just want to know if i'm being unreasonable so please be honest.
This bridesmaid has been a friend of mine for 5 years, we went to university together - my other bridesmaids are lifelong friends. I'm a bridesmaid for this girl as well and she asked me 2 years ago, her wedding is in 2 weeks time. At the time I was thrilled but over the 2 years the bills have wracked up for her wedding and as it stands the bride has paid for NOTHING.
We have paid for our own shoes (which have to be a certain colour), dress (which we were handed and had no say in although they were only £50), hair and make up, overnight wedding accommodation and travel, hen weekend and obviously paid for the bride. Additionally I hosted the bride and her family for 2 days at home where I cooked breakfast and dinner each evening.
So the bride has paid for NOTHING for her bridesmaids and this has upset me hugely. I have never heard of any bride doing this let alone a best friend. I think its outrageous. We are paying to be her bridesmaids.
We are constantly being asked for money month after month, again just 2 weeks before the wedding.
i now don't want to have her as my bridesmaid any more but don't want to ruin the friendship. I know it will have an impact but to be honest with the way she's treated us (her own bridesmaids) i'm not overly concerned.
Am I within my rights to say I can't have her anymore and if so I had planned to use the excuse that I want to have my oldest school friends and its nothing personal etc.
Any advice welcome as this is tearing me up. Thanks so much. 
