Please share venues to help me find one!

I think perhaps you need to make a list of what you do want, what you don't want and what you can afford and then see which bits you are willing to move on and which bits you aren't. My budget for the ceremony part alone is probably similar to your budget for the entire wedding, and I'm still not getting exactly what I want. It's frustrating and I can sympathise with you there, but £1500 for a wedding is a very small budget and you will probably find you have to compromise on everything. It comes down to either having what you want and paying for it, or having the budget you want and compromising on what you can have. It sucks but no amount of venue searching will change that.

For fear of repeating my previous post and pretty much what everyone else as said, as soon as you set foot outside of a registry office for a wedding you are looking at AT LEAST a 3rd of your budget gone for the sake of 20 minutes of your day. Guests are not going to give a s**t about the surroundings for that mere 20 minutes, you are not going to give a s**t about your surroundings for that mere 20 minutes. Your photographs in the ceremony venue are mainly going to be you walking down an aisle with guests either side, standing at a table with a registrar and you walking back down the aisle as a married woman. Your photographs will barely show anything. You can then go to a park, a museum, a stately home and have photographs in pretty surroundings FREE!

Please remember that the majority of the advice is coming from hitchers that have either already been married or booked their ceremony venues. We're not telling you it's impossible to have what you want for your budget to be cruel, we're telling you because it's fact and until you accept this you're never going to get anything sorted.

Https://www.derbyshire.gov.uk/community/births_marriages_deaths/marriage/licensed_venues/

https://www.nottinghamshire.gov.uk/living/life/births-marriages-and-deaths/weddings/venues

http://www.girlsinwhitedresses.co.uk/info/suppliers/County/Approved%20Venue/SOUTH%20YORKSHIRE

I agree with everyone else that if you spend £900 of your £1500 budget on a ceremony you will have little left for everything else. But I also hear what you say on the other threads when your OH says that all he is interested in is the ceremony and marrying you, and that he would rather not marry at a register office.

I've put the approved lists for Derbyshire, Nottinghamshire and South Yorks above. We can all go through and suggest possible places but, rather like someone else trying to choose a wedding dress, only you know what you are actually after.

A couple of years ago I attended a bring your own picnic wedding. They hired the village hall (which also had as field attached in case of good weather) and we all laid our picnic out on a long roll of paper on the floor and shared everything. The B+G provided pink sparkling wine, lemonade, tea and coffee. In the evening her Mum brought out trays of baked potatoes they'd been cooking in the little kitchen at the venue all afternoon and we had them with butter, cheese and beans. It was a lovely happy fun wedding, with lots of laughter, croquet indoors (as it was tipping down) and very competitive games. I'd be surprised if it cost them as much as you could afford if you are careful with your budget for rings etc.

We got married in Derbyshire and paid £900 for room hire plus all registrars fees. Your budget won't cover a civil ceremony and I agree with the others you are making excuses for a lot of suggestion given. We're just trying to help.

Hello Miss Piestar.

With respect, given that your budget is so small, you would be unwise (I think) to blow a load of it on getting a registrar to come to you. We did, but only because the capacity of the registry office was not big enough for all the guests, 80% of whom had travelled over three hours to get to the wedding in the first place (I'm Welsh, got married in Wales, OH is a Londoner, and most of the guests were his massive extended family).

The ceremony takes barely twenty minutes, you're in, and then you're out again. I can hardly remember any of what was said, as we were both too high on adrenalin and the sense of occasion to take in what she was saying.

For the registrar to come to our venue, we paid £320, with an extra £70 on top for our notices.

To get married in the registry office, it would have cost us £49.50.

Save your money to spend on the prettier things. Again, with respect, you really cannot afford to be too selective. That Mansfield place that was flashed earlier by Mrs Kharv is gorgeous.

Firstly thank you ALL so much for your replies.

I didn't intend in anyway to upset or insult any posters, all your suggestions have given me food for thought and I shall go away and have a look through the suggestions PROPERLY with my OH.

I don't mean to put down any suggestions, as most of you will have done at some point when picking your venue, you must have had a dream of what you might find. I appreciate our budget is extremely modest and we aren't going to get an all singing all dancing castle or something!! I always just thought that something would jump out.

I guess I just want to find that perfect venue that doesn't exist! ? It's hard to see somewhere like Mansfield where I might nip to go shopping as somewhere to get married. I need to change my thinking.

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Let us know how you get on piestar, I'm intrigued to see what you decide on

I will! I really like the look of Newark town hall - I was looking at it from the outside when we went the other day - but it is registrar fees again, but the info I found (years out of date) suggested the actual room hue wasn't huge. Sent an email to find out some deets!