Post elopement wedding party

Hi!


Not sure if anyone is able to help, but I’m struggling to find a venue for a post elopement party. Me and my fiancé have been engaged for almost 7 years, and in that time we’ve struggled to agree on what wedding we want. He wanted to elope just us two (he hates being centre of attention and hated the idea of spending so much money for 1 day). On the other hand, I wanted a wedding with around 60 people, as I moved cities and I barely see any family - so having people there is important to me.
Because of this, we’ve not managed to make a decision on where we marry, except for a compromise which we’ve come up with now which is that we do both…
So elope in Canada and do honeymoon right after (which is costing around £10k), and then come home and have a post elopement party.
Issue is, I want quality time with my family - sit down meal and DJ, so we’re essentially having to pay for two weddings.
We’ve decided for the UK post elopement party, to make it cheaper by having the following schedule so we don’t need to pay for 2 rounds of food for everyone:
- 4pm start time, guests arrive, canapés and welcome drink - 6pm - 8pm - we play our elopement video and photo slide show, as everyone is sat down to eat, do a few very short speeches. Everyone eats wedding breakfast / has coffees etc- After dinner we were thinking of doing something fun like a game of bingo but with some really good prizes to win, something to perk people up before DJ / dancing- 9pm - DJ
Now, where i’m struggling is even cutting out the ceremony and having our celebration start at 4pm, the cost is still totalling to the amount of a standard wedding. So venue wise, I think i’m going to have to back down and go for something really casual like a brewery or similar , but then that’s not what i had imagined for our celebration.
I considered an air bnb or country house rental and catering there - but many of them don’t have the indoor space for a sit down meal, and i’d be banking on the weather being good.
It shouldn’t feel this hard because we will already be married, but it’s really coming out expensive, and if we’re going to pay for the full thing in the UK it makes me feel like we’re essentially paying for two weddings - one abroad and one him the UK. Maybe our compromise isn’t actually possible after all, because the part of the wedding that I am wanting isn’t going to be possible on a £6k budget? i’ve actually started trying to find venues that have packages like baby shower/engagement packages but not getting anywhere.
Any ideas would be great. We’re looking in the yorkshire or north east england area.