Me and my partner are going to have a very small wedding abroad. I was planning on having 2 bridesmaids and my daughter as a 'flower girl' but was going to walk with her down the aisle side by side as I won't have my dad to give me away. Plus she will only be 2 so won't be a proper flower girl.
My Mil is putting so much pressure on me to include my partners niece and have her as a flower girl too, saying you should ask ****** and it would be lovely having ****** as a flower girl. And to be honest I don't want her to be one. Not that I don't like her I do there are just a number of reasons why;
1. If I include her then her brother might feel left out also I will feel pressure to include my other niece from my side.
2. I don't want a big bridal party as it is extra cost ie dresses and we are having so few guests I think it will look silly if I have loads of bridesmaids.
3. I kind of want my daughter to walk with me down the aisle so I don't have to do it alone. If my partners niece is involved then my daughter will end up walking with her.
I told my MIL not to say anything about it at all to her as I hadn't made up my mind yet and I didn't want her to get her hopes up and be disappointed if I said no. Today she comes to me and says 'you never guess what ****** was asking, she asked me if she would be your flower girl and I said that she would have to ask you' now I'm so annoyed by this because my mil has obviously said something about it to her, she wouldn't just randomly come out with that. now I don't know what to say to her because I don't want to hurt her feelings! Do I just involve her but then I feel like I shouldn't out of principal because my MIL has clearly gone against my wishes, then I just feel very petty. This post is basically just a rant lol. Any advice appreciated. X
