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Curious January 2026 Lancashire

Pressured into buying a ring - did i make a mistake??

2026Bridetobe, 27 February, 2025 at 14:53 Posted on Wedding Attire 0 3
Hey everyone.
Fiancé and I went into town today to look at wedding rings as we’ve been looking at loads online but wanted to see some in person.
First place we went into was Peter Jackson and the sales girl was really lovely and helpful, i looked through loads of options and she told me that even though my engagement ring is 18 carat white gold, it won’t make any difference if the wedding ring I get is 9 carat white gold so that’s one way to save some money.
One of the options she showed me was a 9 carat ring with a mix of diamonds and band that I loved but it was way out of budget (£1450 when we told her before we were looking around £1000 for both mine and fiancés)
I had also told her I wasn’t a jewellery person and was going to be happy just with a cheaper plain ring and I liked some of the ones I tried, but she wanted to show me this one to see if I liked the style. Once I tried it on she said she could see how much I liked it and how nice it looked with my engagement ring etc.I did say it was out of budget and she said she would speak to her manager and see what they could do.In the meantime I spoke with fiancé and he said if I really love the ring to go for it and we will make the budget work elsewhereHe found a ring he loved for £295 from them so was going to order that regardless.
She came back and said the total for both rings comes to £1745 but they can do them both for £1570 if we can pay a £200 deposit today to secure the order and then it would leave £1370 to pay when we came to pick the rings up. I still wasn’t sure and wanted to think about it but she said she could see how much I loved it so one way to think of it was: the total for both was £1570, but that divide by 2 was £785 so instead of a pricier ring for me compared to my fiancé it’s like we both got a ring for under £800 and will have it for the rest of my life so the cost divide the amount of years I will wear it comes to nothing.
I ended up feeling a bit pressured and swept up in it all and went for it so we paid the deposit, but now I’m worrying - my 18 carat white gold engagement ring was £500 so it’s 3x as much and it’s a 9 carat gold ring! Plus I didn’t even look round any other stores whilst in town and I could have just got a plain white gold band I would have loved for so much less!!
I know I could have said no and it’s my own fault but has anyone else been in this position and felt a bit pressured then regretted spending so much on a ring??
I’m comparing it to EVERYTHING now - I haven’t actually found a wedding dress yet but was only planning on spending about £1000 or under on it, but it feels stupid to have paid more for a ring then my dress now!!
Fiancé is supportive and said not to worry about the cost and we can make it work, he just wants me to have something I will really love but I just feel so guilty at spending that much.
Sorry for the long bit of a vent/rant…to top it off I’ve just looked on Peter Jackson’s website and I think I found the ring there but it’s £1200 so not sure why I’ve been charged £1450?! 😭

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Latest activity by Robert, 18 March, 2025 at 05:57
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    I'm sorry, it's horrible when you get pushed into a decision and then start wondering if it's the right one.

    I think it might help if you stopped thinking about the 'what ifs' (because you can't do anything about those!) and instead, start looking at what you have and what your options are.

    You mentioned that you don't want to spend more on the ring than on your dress, but why not? A wedding dress is for the day of your wedding, but a wedding ring is for the whole of your marriage, which hopefully will be a long time. So although it's not the usual way round, it really makes far more sense to spend more on the ring than on the dress!

    If you really love the ring and can afford it (maybe by trimming a bit off the budget elsewhere), then wear it and love it and ditch those regrets. If spending so much is going to put a strain on your finances, or if you really don't like the ring that much, or feel uncomfortable having one that is that expensive, then check out your options. It might be possible to buy a cheaper ring from the same company without losing your deposit. Or, if you would really prefer a plain band, you could afford to lose the entire £200 deposit and buy a couple of rings from another shop and still save money compared to the full cost of your current rings.

    So think it through and make a decision based on what works for you and your OH and your lifestyle/finances. Don't let the 'should haves' and 'ought tos' get in the way!

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    Curious January 2026 Lancashire
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    Thank you!! I do find myself getting caught up in “what ifs” a lot and doubting my decisions.
    That is a good point and I didnt think of it that way at first but you’re right, the dress is just something that will be worn once and the ring will forever!!

    Thank you for helping put it into a bit more perspective, I’m feeling better about it now Smiley smile
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