Purple & Gold Planning Thread!

We've also got our wedding rings!

Here is my engagement ring

H2B wedding ring

Engagement ring and wedding ring together

Here is the ring cushion we have for our page boy, with our rings in the middle...

Also onto accessories/shoes etc.

I am having a 2 tier sparkle veil which is going to be floor length (hopefully.)

I have also got my headpiece. I really wanted a blingy tiara so I went to my dress shop and tried loads on but couldn't find any I liked. Just before we left, my mum found a headband for me to try. It's got a vintage style large flower on with feathers etc. Kinda like what MOB would wear. I put it on and loved it! Going to remove the feathers though.

I can't find an actual picture of it (they're keeping it at the shop) so here's the nearest I could find on google:

Also have my shoes, bought from BHS.

Decided on the kind of make up style I would like:

I am a very bold make up kinda person ?

Some ideas of nails:

And hairstyles:

Suits.

We have got jackets and waistcoats for: H2B, FOB, 2 Best Men, 2 Ushers.

Here is H2B in his suit

We have gone for a more casual kind of look as H2B isn't really a formal person. We've got brown jacket and waistcoats, with brown chinos. The boys will also be wearing converse.

We've found a similar kids suit in Monsoon for the page boys which will hopefully match as close as possible!

Boys shoes will hopefully be something like this:

We will be customising them ourselves.

It's all stunning. Can't wait to see it all come together on the day.

Sparkly bridesmaid dresses?

I have just read the whole of this thread! It all looks amazing, especially the venue and your dress!! I love how organised you are as well ?

Thank you Jayne

We sent the dresses back - they really weren't flattering!!

Just to show you what I mean, here are the pictures. very disappointed.

Look how short they are!!

Thank you Jade! ?

Heyy,, i love sunnyivory photo...

thats so nice and beautiful

Oh my goodness. Yes I see what you mean. Those models must have been super short and skinny as theirs were long. Definately wouldn't have been flattering on me lol.

Your wedding looks wonderful.

Our DIY skills came in handy this weekend...

We made everyone personalised hangers using Primark wooden hangers and glitter pens from Tesco!

I've found bows from Hobbycraft to put on the top, so hopefully will get them soon..

Currently having an issue with the bridal party... As explained before, we have lost some of our bridesmaids but now we're having more problems. This may be a long post but for anyone who can be bothered to read it all, I'd appreciate your opinions and advice!!

We currently have 2 best men and 3 ushers and between 5 - 8 bridesmaids!

The situation at the moment is I have 4 definite bridesmaids and 4 maybe bridesmaids!!

Definite bridesmaids are as follows:

M - Sister

B - Best friend

B - Uni friend

C - Step sister.

I was happy with this until the other 4 bridesmaids got mixed in. There are 2 that I definitely want, 1 who is supposed to be my best friend but we have stages of falling out, and the other is H2B sister.

T - I didn't ask her to begin with. We have always been really close but she is more sister's age and they are closer than me and T. However, I was speaking to H2B and decided I wouldn't be happy unless T was a bridesmaid.

R - Exactly the same as T. They are both like my little sisters and I love them to be pieces. Awkward point about R is J's boyfriend cheated on J with R (Not a good starting point to have them both as bridesmaids!!)

J - J is my best friend of 8 years. She lives a long distance away and we rarely see each other. We have moments of falling out and not talking for a while. J is a rather jealous friend and isn't happy with how close I am to others. Also not happy about R being a bridesmaid. She has been asked but she doesn't mention it much and doesn't seem committed.

L - L is the biggest problem. She is H2B's sister. H2B and I have been together over 3 years now. L lives in London so we hardly see her. I've mentioned her before and her negative comments towards the wedding/relationship. The only reason I asked L is because she's H2B's sister.. I didn't want her! We hardly talk - we've probably spoken about 3 times since we met 3 years ago!!

So my dilemma is this. I definitely have 6 bridesmaids. J is most likely going to be a bridesmaid.. so that's 7. In this case I'm wondering whether to try and keep everyone happy and just have L as a bridesmaid. I'm trying to see it as "I've already got 7 bridesmaids, what's the harm in 1 more.." But really my thoughts are that all the girls mean something special to me and that's why I've picked them. So I don't want to have L just because she's H2B's sister and I feel like I HAVE to have her. How can I unask her and maybe give her another role? Witness? Reader?

Ultimately I guess it’s down to what L is like as a person – as in, how will she take it? I had to ‘un-bridesmaid’ (for want of a much better word!!) two “friends” and it was horrible – on the face of it they were ok, but it turned out that they had been really hurt by it and were b!tching about it (and me) non-stop to other people. Which I totally understand, I should have had more of a backbone when they put me on the spot and asked me if they could be BM’s! But anyway, I digress…

If you think L will take it badly, especially as she is your SiL2B is it worth keeping her just to keep the peace? Or, if you don’t think she will mind, ask her to do a reading or something instead? I take it that if she doesn’t know you very well she’s not going to know your friends? So you could even do it from the angle of her not knowing anyone the morning of the wedding (when you’re getting ready) and wanting her to feel comfortable?

These situations are always difficult and I think you’ve just got to judge it on how you think she’ll feel. One other thing to bare in mind (depending on what you’re paying for) is that one more BM is another person’s worth of “stuff” to buy… eg flowers, dress, hair, make up etc….. all adds up quickly!

thank you for replying! She is a really quiet person and honestly I don't think she would care at all, apart from feeling a bit left out. The problem is mother in law to be will be very very angry and upset. She has already said to H2B he needs to remember that I'm joining their family and it's his wedding as well and his sister should be bridesmaid etc etc...

My main worry is that L doesn't really know me, doesn't know any other bridesmaids, doesn't know my family etc. She is going to coming on the hen do and coming to dress fittings and getting ready together and travelling together. The whole thing just feels really awkward. We've never spent time together just us 2, it's always L and H2B and mother in law etc etc..

I think she will feel left out if she isn't a bridesmaid, but can't help thinking she will be more left out and awkward as a bridesmaid. All the other girls know each other and don't always get on but are comfortable together and she will just be very awkward and quiet and not know anyone (including me!)

Quick update!

I've recently completed a diploma in Wedding & Event Management

and.... Started my own bridal boutique! Currently working from home and building up my stock but if anyone wants to take a look at my Facebook page:

www.facebook.com/birdiesbridalboutique ?

Oooooh how exciting!!! Will have to have a look when I get home

What did you decide with L after? x

More interesting updates!

Colour theme has changed... We've dropped the purple as it didn't look right.

We've also gone for different bridesmaid dresses. My MOH and Chief bridesmaid are having the gold bridesmaid dresses - in previous post.

other bridesmaids will be wearing this dress:

They are the exact same style dress as the gold ones just in brown!

and instead of the purple dresses, my flower girls will be wearing these:

Only issue with these dresses is that turkey ex bridesmaid now wants the same!!

It's a good job you have so long haha

You're so indecisive!

Can't wait to see what future posts bring

Just been reading through this at work and hide a little tear at the proposal, that's so lovely! Any planning updates? x