Questions about groomsmen

1. I think this is a personal preference. Personally, I don't think it would be odd and would be a nice gesture.

2. Our best man will actually be helping to usher people, as well as doing other jobs during the wedding (such as helping with the venue set up, calling taxis for guests after the ceremony, moving flowers from the ceremony to reception...)

3. We're not doing sides, but typically at weddings I've just had the usher ask whether we're guests of the groom or bride.

The best man tends to just stay with the groom. The groom and BM *might* escort aunt Mildred ti her seat if she isnt with anyone, butother than that, they woulnt do much but stabd at the front, say hi to people etc.

The ushers would seat everyone. I dont see the need to supply pictures of guests, the simple question 'are you with the bride or groom?' should suffice.

We have my brother and OH best mate. My bro knows to sit all my family my side and anyone he doesnt recognise on my OH's side as his family will take up 4 seats lol, so by default he gets the friends. I offered him some members of my family, but he, sensibly, declined!

1. I think it'd be a nice gesture if you have one spare.

2. You'd "normally" (and I say normal in the loosest sense of the word, because there really is no "normal") have more than one usher as that is actually their job, to "usher" people to their seats, just like in the theatre. Where you have several (we have 5!), a couple can hand out orders of service, a couple can show people to their seats etc. In your case, I think it would be fine for the best man to help the usher. There's nothing else he really needs to be doing other than keeping the groom calm.

3. If they don't recognise them, they can just ask "bride or groom". We've deliberately included a male from my side (my sister's husband) so that he'll recognise my side of the family.

Hmm thanks all. Now I am wondering if we should have had an usher from my side too!

Like has been said already it’s really personal preference. What do you need them to do? What does OH want them to do?

We have 1 best man and 4 ushers so best man will probably stay with OH primarily.

Ushers will help guide cars into car park, greet people into church, hand out orders of service and seat people appropriately (no pictures but there will be a little church layout showing certain rows are reserved for specific people.

MIL keeps joking about being escorted up to her seat with an usher on each arm!!

Be on hand to answer calls from guests who get lost.

Few people staying at venue, so point them in the right direction to check into their rooms.

Possibly going to get them to help with some room setup on the morning depending on how much other help I get.

1. That won't look weird at all and I think it would be a lovely gesture to include him with a buttonhole. OH's dad is not getting the same suit but it will be a similar colour. My Dad is wearing the same suit, the matchy matchy element was important to him (despite not having it at his own wedding?) and I am confident it won't look strange!

2. BM will be helping OH chill out. That is his only job. He's quite useless IRL so if he has any other jobs it could go horribly wrong. Oh wait he is also announcing when everyone is seated that they need to hang around the Church for photos before they are allowed to leave!

3. Ushers will be made up of OH's mates his brother and my brother. This should make seating family easy and for everyone else they will ask I imagine. We are also asking the brothers to corral family members for photos straight after the ceremony.