Update:id="size4">Hello All,
Apologies for absenteeism - hope you are all fine and dandy.
I'm off to see the vicar this weekend and I promised to bounce this every now and again for everyone and to see if anyone else wanted to add anything.
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I was compiling a list and I thought "This is something that always gets asked on hitched wouldn't it be good if there was a list" sooooooo
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I'm volunteering to be guardian of a Vicar List.id="size3">
If you post your questions here, I'll keep the list updated so we have them all in one place, and next time someone wants to know what they should ask the vicar they can call for it and we'll bounce it for them. Sound fair?
If there are questions that specifically relate to one religion or another, I'd be grateful if you could mark them as such and I'll group those together too.
Here's some of mine in no order of importance
Money
How much does it all cost?
When must this be paid?
Services
Can I have the bells rung?
Can I use the church choir - how much is this?
Can I use my own choir?
Is the organist available on my date?
Flowers
What does the church prefer about flowers (church's own flower ladies or may I use a florist)
When may our florist have access to the church to place the arrangements etc?
Are there any parts of the church where flowers may not be used?
Is there anyone else getting married the same day so that flower costs may be shared?
Music
Are the hymns we've chosen OK?
Is the processional/recesional music I've chosen ok?
Are my plans for the signing of the register (choir, harp etc) acceptable?
Is a piper permitted in the grounds of the church when we come out.
Do I need to get copyright permission to reproduce the hymns I want in my order of service?
Readings
Can non religious readings be included in the ceremony?
Are the readings we've selected acceptable?
Video/photo-graphyMay a videographer record the ceremony?
Can my photographer record the ceremony?
Is there a charge for licences for videographers
Is photography (e.g. guests) restricted at all and if so, is it possible to agree that only my photographer will be using a camera inside the church?
Legal
When will the banns be read and do i have to attend?
If so when are the services (e.g. every Sunday? What time?)
What documentation (passports/birth certificates etc) do we need to bring you?
Other/misc
How many does the church seat?
Will there be a rehersal? When will it be and who should attend?
Is confetti allowed?
Would the vicar like to proof-read the order of service before it is printed?
Do I have a choice about whether my bridesmaids walk in front or behind me?
Are there any evening classes that we should attend?
If there is a wedding before ours (either a couple of days before or on the day itself) and will any confetti be cleared away before I arrive? (Last thing you want is to walk down the aisle with confetti caught around the bottom of the dress)id="size1">
If not, is there a broom/vaccuum cleaner available for someone to clear it up before I arrive.
May petals be scattered before the bride?
Are there rules about adult:flowergirl ratios? (One vicar said that there must be one adult bridesmaid for every two flowergirls under 5 years old so they could keep them in check)id="size1">
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