Really fussy hen!!

What is your friends idea of a good evening? I'm sure you can organise something nice - even if it is just a really good meal out!

Her idea of a fun evening is a chinese restaurant - you can do that any night!!

you need to do something a bit different for your hen night dont you!!

Actually I'm surprised at the amount of B2B's that say no to this and that, but when a friend actually brings some fun stuff like deely boppers and badges to a hen night...they love it.

I'd go for a chinese, then onto a club or something, and take some stuff to dress her up (doesn't have to be a veil etc.) with peer pressure she'll give in and she'll probably love the attention too!

TahDah didnt you read the rules - no clubs!!

Yeah i am just going to take all the dress up stuff and make her wear it after a few wines! at the moment she is being such a wet weekend!

Why not organise an afternoon in a swanky bar with a fit barman showing you how to make yummy cocktails and getting to try them out.

Sounds like fun to me

Day at a spa followed by a nice restaurant?

that was one of my ideas but her CBM said that is too expensive!! I got a bit stressed and told her to bloody organise it!

The cocktail making sounds good but i dont wana get everyone too hammered before the dinner!! Ill be tucked up in bed by 8.30 if we do that! ha

Spa followed by chinese restaurant sounds spot on to me.

Is there a Teppenyaki restaurant anywhere near you (Japanese where they cook the food in front of you?) - that is good fun and a slightly more exciting/different option than your regular chinese?

What are your neearest towns? People may be able to make some reccomendations.

Definately just a day/night rather than a weekend?

What month?

Would it be cheaper to get someone who comes to the house? Not quite a spa day but maybe make up lessons or pedicures all round? Then out for a meal?

Just a thought.

Were in Surrey so would like it to be there or London really!

She just wants a night definatly not a weekend.

i am googlling the Teppenyaki restaurant now = sounds like fun

Month - June - i know i know i am leaving it late!

I have to say, I think I'm a little bit like your friend in that clubbing isn't my scene or anything that involves bringing me any attention. I wouldn't mind dressing up in those hen party t-shirts or wearing a sash or something but that's probably as far as I'd go. I wouldn't rule out outdoor activities though as it could be quite fun depending on the activity.

I'm having a day in London with a champagne flight on the London Eye, bit of shopping, a nice meal and then on to a nice bar (no clubbing) for cocktails. OH's sister is arranging it and she's trying to come up with another activity for us.

How about a spa weekend for your friend? Or maybe hiring a nice cottage for the weekend, having a good girly get-together - could go for walks, meals at local pub or have a bbq. Could even go to see a show and then follow it by having a meal somewhere.

Hope this helps.

Sorry, just seen this post! Does she not even want a daytime activity or anything?

yes she wants a hen day but she has really limited my options about what to do in the day!

Laura Lee - thanks for the idea about getting someone to come round but there is 25 hens on her guest list and we all live in smallish flats that wouldnt hold that amount of people!!

aarrrhhhh!

I also think I'm a little bit like your friend in the sense that Clubbing isn't really my thing either..I would not give bms rules to go by tho..

What about having a girly day in if you didn't want to go to a spa...get lots of spa products and do facials on eachother, paint nails...drink wine etc etc...have lot's of nibbles and then go out for a meal and then cocktails...its hard when shes put all of those rules in place...

BUT REMEMBER RULES ARE THERE TO BE BROKEN...maybe she wants these things???

HI im in Surrey to. There is a chinese resturant in Cranleigh that turns into a disco afterwards, its meant to be great and its all in the same place so she has no where to run once its started!!

https://www.yourbestlocal.com/goldenpalace/

I agree with the rules are meant to be broken!

https://www.gohen.com/activities/pamperingday.asp

https://www.gohen.com/activities/cocktailmixing.asp

https://www.gohen.com/activities/chocolatemaking.asp

https://www.gohen.com/activities/winetasting.asp

https://www.gohen.com/activities/canalboat.asp

/activities/afternoon-tea.asp says Dublin but loads of UK locations and you could do your own

https://www.gohen.com/activities/recording.asp

The Japanese thing where they cook in front of you sounds good. There is a similar Mongolian place in Glasgow called Kublai Khan. All sorts on the menu, shark, wild boar, yak ribs etc. I think it's a chain so should be one in London. It's really good for big groups.

I'm planning my own hen night as I don't fancy devil's horns, willy jokes etc. I'm thinking of a comedy club - good ice breaker for folk that don't know each other and shouldn't be too expensive.

Don't want to sound tlike a party pooper but I'd respect her wishes. We're all brides to be and how many times do we find it annoying when someone tells us "but you have to, that's how it's done!" You can have all the fun in the world at your own hen do but I'd be pretty pissed off if I'd specifically asked for certain things to be excluded and ended up being forced to run around in a veil kissing random men and dancing to music I hated.

Hope I've not offended ?

I saw a hen party going round Alton Towers once - that's quite different, tho might be a bit too outdoorsy.

If she likes Chinese how about a Chinese-cooking day - I don 't really know your area but there's got to be someone around London that offers day cooking lessons. And the best part is you get to eat it after ?

Hmmmm, it's tricky, maybe there's a reason why CMB didn't want to organise it! lol!

Sorry, I'm with the bride on this one. I bloody hate typical hen do's and really wouldn't want that kind of thing for my own (and indeed I'm not!) so I'd be livid if the person who was organising it just went ahead and did everything I'd specified not to. I'd get no enjoyment from it at all. Which is probably why I'm arranging my own and it's exactly as I want it ?

What about those private karaoke rooms in London? Or private bowling lanes?

How about a day out at Thorpe Park, there are some 2-4-1 vouchers around at the moment.

exactly my thoughts!!

I dont want to arrange something that she wont like but with all them rules!!

i like the cook infront of you idea thingy!

thats for all your answers and dont worry noone offended!

I know some people dont like being made a fuss over etc!

x

Comedy club is a blinding idea for after your teppenyaki - perfect!

And during the day - how about a trip to the races? Doesn't have to be expensive at all! (You could go to the derby - epsom - if her hen day is going to be 6th june?!) Sandown have racing on the 13th June, Lingfield park have racing every Saturday in June.

thats what im doing !!! YAYYYYYY?

How about:

a theatre show

a day at the races - champers, bets, hats ( sounds good to me!!)

girly shopping day

some holiday inn hotels do a meal night with a tribute band /disco after

BTW - LOVING the idea mentioned earlier of fit barmen mixing cocktails !! LOL

HTH - im sure you will find something fun and keeping to the rules?

Someone I know went to a hen day party, where they hired a village hall during the day and got all the hens to bring some food and had a picnic, this could be done outside if the weather was nice, then they went to london which was nearby to see a musical. they all really enjoyed it! then some stayed in london for some clubbing while the rest went home.

my friend got married last year at at her hen do we all bought round some nibbles etc and ate at hers and then went to a wine bar. she didnt want any of the extra bits, but i bought some anyway and some funny not too rude pressies to open at her house, and she actually wore some out and admitted to likng it to. all the hens had paper hats from poundland saying hen do so she wasnt on her own. and I made sure she knew that she had the option to where it if she wanted to.

you could play some little games etc if you were in a restaurant, out and about or even at someones house. I got cards from ebay with the date and her name on the back and we all wrote little messages of good luck and advice on them, and we had some find a man with...e.g moustache, tight trousers, pink shirt, biggest gold chain, tie etc but we just had to take a photo of them, didnt even have to be standing next to them!!

Oh. I am THAT bride. I too have said ALL OF THAT!!!

Thats why I'm going for a meal and you know what? Its not going to be boring in the slightest!

its what you make of it not what you DO with it..

oh god i feel awful now.... in my OP i didnt mean to imply that anyone who dosnt want to do all those things is going to have a boring hen night!

I was just want to organise something special that she is going to remember and dont want to go to the same restaurant that we go for birthdays, christmas etc.

I think i am going to organise treatments at the salon for those who can afford and then go into london to the restaurant that cooks the japenese food infront of you... i think that ticks all the boxes and dosnt break any rules!

I'm pretty much the same as Nona and your friend with my list of no-nos! I have my hen this weekend and we're going here - www.aleacasinos.com/alea/glasgow. They have a couple of surprises lined up, which I suspect could either be our own private barman or cocktail lessons. Another idea we had was to hire a posh house/apartment where we could have a get together during the day and then head out for dinner/drinks later but the house we wanted was already booked!

Sounds like a good plan shoegal!

You know what I was that B2B I had all the rules about what i didn't want, no tack, no veils, tiaras, L plates, willies and def no strippers.

and I got them ALL (apart from the stripper) and guess what i loved it all! So much that I wore it all again when I went out with the work girls again on Sat.

So the moral of my story is break some of the rules you never know she might actually enjoy it!

I would go with a nice meal then reserve a booth in a late night bar that does cocktails - she might not like clubbing but the evening may go on longer if you don't plan it around clubbing if you see what I mean!

You could so something over the meal like playing a Mr & Mrs style game - write a list of questions about her & her H2B - get him to answer them. For each one she gets right she gets a present - all the hens bring a present which can be absolutely anything. Among the presents you are bound to get some dressing up stuff - she will probably go for a bit of dressing up in the heat of the moment!

You could get everyone else to wear black and her to wear pink or red or another bright colour - that way she 'stands out' anyway.

I think for mine I am going to have a Sex & The City themed night out - fab dresses, heels and cocktails!

God, what options has she left you with?!

Tupperware party?

Anne Summers Party?, afternoon tea party?

DInner and a girlie night in...facials, manicure etc?

I would start off in the day with a pole dancing and cheerleading session in fancy dress with the odd cheer dare chucked in, followed by an evening in a club with strippers, more tacky clothes, stupid dare and pole dancing!

She's hardly going to leave is she!