Relationships and honeymoon periods

It's perfectly natural to miss that frisson of a new romance - it's an exciting, emotional time. And sometimes i feel nostalgic for it, but I also feel nostalgic for the summer holidays I used to have, my first years at uni, some(!) of my school days, various other parts of my life that were brilliant at the time, but that i can never recapture. They are just good memories, I'm not going to try and recreate them (plus I'm sure there were painful parts attached to all of them, that I have handily forgotten).

We didn't really get much of a newlywed feel tbh - but we had been together for 8 years, living together for 4 of them, and getting married didn't change the dynamic in our relationship at all.

But i still do get those feelings of a new relationship - sometimes i look at Mr FtG and my heart just skips a (metaphorical) beat as i realise how much love him, and how much he loves me, and how lucky we are.

Summer_sparkle.... you are soooooo normal! ?

It's totally normal to feel like this, I know I did in the run up to my wedding especially. It's a huge step, and although you can be 100% certain it's the right thing to do, it's natural to think it through very carefully. It just shows you are giving it a lot of thought and taking it seriously. In fact, I'd be more worried if you didn't.

I've been with my H 15 years now and there are still days when he makes me feel like a giddy teenager (albeit usually after copious amounts of wine ? and also days when I could happily throw him off a 20 story building. It's all about highs and lows. As long as the overall highs are still outweighing the lows, then life is all good in my book.

To go back to your book point, I felt that way recently when reading Twilight (after falling in love with Edward Cullen after seeing the film). I felt so angry that H didn't do romantic things for me like Edward did for Bella. In fact, I remember waking up one morning in a right grump with him about it, after a particulary vivd (and very sexy) vampire dream ?.

My opinion on it?... the author is doing their job very well if it can make you feel that way ?. Nothing more.

That's what's caused all of this!!! I am now head over heels after the film and am now reading the book!

Glad I'm not the only one and that these thoughts are (relatively) normal!

?. There was a Twilight thread on here not so long ago actually. I think it transpired that the entire population of Hitched felt that way about Edward/Bella too!

Summer_sparkles, just for you.....

http://images2.fanpop.com/images/photos/3800000/Rob-Pattinson-twilight-series-3866982-600-709.jpg

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I am so head over heals in lust with the guy that plays Edward! And the books....I actually just want to lock myself in a room with all the books and just read them. Saw the film and thought "H2B isn't dangerous and brooding...tsk!" Lol. Would it be worth starting another Twilight thread?

Phwoar! How exactly is it possible I didn't know he existed until two days ago?

I know it's stating the obvious, and you know this already, but it's worth reminding yourself that this is fiction. The love affairs in the movies/TV/books are fairytales, by their very nature.

No, you'll never experience a 'first kiss' again but the stuff between you that replaces that initial excitment is so much more meaningful and exciting in it's own way.

We played cranium with some friends (another married couple) a few weeks ago. It was me and H versus them and we whooped their arses. Why? Because we are so in tune with eachother we just knew what the other was thinking. The wife of the couple stropped for the remainder of the evening over it. So who needs butterflies and first kisses when you could be Cranium super-team enjoying a frosty evening with a moody couple. ?

I would, I noticed she said on her website she didn't write them for a teenage audience but for everyone and that people of a lot of different ages like them. Ok, so I am only six years out of my teens, but I can't put it down.

We've done this too!

Noooooo!

They are the most appalling rubbish. I read the first one after a friend recommended them and then came and ranted on here ?

Only if you like reading badly-written derivative dross. Do you like Harry Potter?

WEES

I sometimes really miss the excitement and I think it's totally normal. I really enjoyed being single and I do miss it on very rare occasions but I know I am married to a fabulous man. There are other people that I'd quite like to have a filthy night of sex with but I know that I only want to be married to my H. ?

I also think it's really easy to keep romance in movies as the everyday things don't get in the way. Life is bloody tough sometimes and we can't all be off dashing along the motorway on a Harley for the airport dash ? I also think new relationships bring a whole host of other things that we forget, the heartache when he doesn't call, the one that got away, the being single on a Sunday afternoon when all your friends are off doing "couple?' things. It's just that the grass always looks a lot greener.

You can't compare twighlight with harry potter. ? it's so much worse!

WFtGs!

I;ve read the whole series, and while the first one is a bit addictive in a 'remembering what it's like to be 14 and obsessed with someone' way the writing is just shocking (just count how many times she says that someone is 'chagrined' or variants thereof).

That's before I even get started on the dubious messages - Stalking means he loves you! Emotional blackmail is ok because he loves you! etc etc etc.

Anyway, save yourself the bother of reading the books (especially the last one which gave me the rage for being so shockingly awful) and read this instead:

https://cleolinda.livejournal.com/602881.html