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Beginner October 2022 North Carolina

Ring Etiquette?

Jimmy, 3 June, 2022 at 17:03 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 7

I have an engagement ring that I bought for a former relationship. I never proposed and she never saw it. Is it wrong for me to use this ring for my girlfriend? It is very unique and I won't be able to find one like it. It is a "navy star" solitaire ring with diamond chips on the side as well and a navy star etched in the ring. I retired from the navy so it has great significance.

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Latest activity by Forever, 4 August, 2022 at 06:52
  • Charlotte
    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
    Charlotte ·
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    As much as it has the significance for you, in total honesty, I wouldn't feel happy being given a ring originally intended for someone else. It doesn't really show though for your fiancée, as you didn't pick it for her and she may well discover the truth of its origins which could be problematic for you. Not wanting to upset you but you really should choose something for her not for you
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    Unless you asked her and she was happy with this, I would say no. Many women would feel uncomfortable being proposed to with a ring that was bought for proposing to someone else. Also, have you considered her tastes? I'd be surprised if both your previous girlfriend and your current one had exactly the same taste, so it sounds as if you may be thinking of an engagement ring in terms of what would be meaningful to you instead of what your girlfriend would find meaningful.

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
    Anonbride ·
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    Agree with the above comments. As the ring is meaningful to you, could you consider having the stone reset in a setting she would like / reusing certain elements but generally remaking the ring so it’s for her rather than how it was for someone else?
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  • L
    Beginner October 2022 Essex
    Lauren ·
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    I feel like it’s probably not the best idea 😬
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  • J
    Beginner October 2022 North Carolina
    Jimmy ·
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    I appreciate everyone's input. You've solidified what I kind of felt anyways, although I didn't even think about reusing the stone(s).

    Have a great day!

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  • Ostira
    Dedicated October 2023 Durham
    Ostira ·
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    I’d definitely suggest what others have. Change the setting on the ring perhaps and wishing you both the best of luck Smiley smile
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