RSVP Accept/Decline ratio??

Don't do it! It will only end in tears!

I think your best bet is to send out the first batch early. Once the RSVPs are back you know how many extra seats you have and then can send another round out, etc...

I invited about 78 people in total and had about 10 declines. Some holidays, no-babysitter (one half of the couple os coming, the wife is staying at home to look after the 3 kids).

Tbh I've gone over our people count by about 10 but we've already had 2 No's so i think we'll be OK. Won't have final numbers until April 18th (i hope)

Ooo i likey your idea about sending them in batches. I guess for every decline i would send out another invite! ha sounds so mean when i put it like that!

I am thinking not alot of people will be holidaying in October so there goes some declines there!

For the ceremony we invited 95 and have got 82 attending. The evening guests - see my earlier post (lol)

the reasons I've had are unbelievable - too tired to come, not sure if I can make it so I'll just say "no" cos I dont' want to say yes then have to cancel - these are 2 of my best friends!!!!! Other reasons have been holidays and can't get time off work which is fine - I don't expect that everybody can make it, thats just what happens with these things.

HOW RUUUUDDDEEEEE! Cull them!! Who needs friends like that!

I cant beleive some peoples attitudes!

How the hell do they know that they are going to be too tired in a few weeks time! IDIOTS!

Too tired to come?! To a wedding over a month away? WTF?!

That is just ridiculous! It's not like you're inviting them for a random house party, it's your wedding ffs.

I'll be interested to see how many declines we get, as like you Shoegal, we have a lot of people to invite and are a bit limited on numbers at least in the ceremony room (our venue have said if we go over, guests can stand at the back of the room, but I'm really not liking this idea!)

May consider the sending out in batches idea too. Thanks for that one!

We invited 68 for the ceremony and had 8 declines. Two were because they couldn't afford flights over (understandable as its Easter and one would be coming from Hong Kong, the other from Jersey). Three (same family) were because they couldn't get time off work and all fly over (from Thailand) - again understandable but unfortunate its OH's dad ☹️. The other was because they are having a knee replacement a week before.

The evening invites were a bit different. We got a few, 'well, I don't plan that far in advance so i'm not sure'. We had 16 declines out of 62 invites. A couple were for holidays, couple for birthday parties and one couldn't get time off work (he's in the Army).

I had planned to 'upgrade' evening people if I had declines from day people and was therefore intending on sending evening invites after the day ones. In the end we decided not to (due to finances).

My supposed best friend didn't make my engagement do....she had three offer for the same night, the other two were a birthday party and and a meal round at the inlaws, she chose the meal round at the inlaws...the reason "we don't have to buy any presents then" i wasn't even expecting a present i just wanted some friends over for to celebrate!!!!!!!!!! her OH is notorious for being tight ! i but hey ho at least she was honest and didn't come up with a lame excuse although i did tell her a dozen times that i didn't want pressies!!

school half term is always in October so if you have families or people with kids coming they might be planning on going away.......

We have gone for the batch approach as well. Sent out most of our day invites last week, and had 5 rsvps so far!! we have some friends we will invite to the day if no one comes, but as its mainly family and they have known the date for a while we are only expecting one family to poss. not be able to make it but they are travelling from portsmouth to hertfordshire and three kids under 3 so it will be fine if they can't come. I'm getting worried that if lots of our evening guests decline the venue will look empty in the evening

I can't believe someone used the excuse too tired when it's a month away! that made me nearly spit coffee all over my computer! ?

We've invited 78 for the day and another 60 ish for the evening. Not all the responses are back yet (RSVP date is 12th March) but no declines yet. I'm only expecting one decline in the day. Not sure about the evening.