This is mostly just a vent, but I’m beginning to get frustrated with my future in-laws. Mainly OH’s brother and sister-in-law. Because OH and I have a long distance relationship I’ve only met them a few times, but they haven’t been very welcoming. They’ve yet to ask me a single question about myself or make an effort to get to know me. Every time we see them they only talk about themselves and what is going on in their lives and barely acknowledge me.
My OH went out to lunch with them and his parents yesterday and apparently in the midst of wedding talk his brother interrupted him and said “Do you want to know something interesting? Did you realize that people will spend more time traveling to your wedding than they will at the actual ceremony?”. He said he didn’t see that as interesting and his sister-in-law chimed in with “Oh really? You don’t think that’s interesting, that you’re asking people to travel longer than they will be at your wedding?” He didn’t respond and his brother said “Oh, well this is awkward now isn’t it.” We are a transatlantic couple and long before we got engaged everyone knew we would be getting married in the US because I will be moving to the UK and thus missing out on a lot of moments with my family in the future. We will also be hosting an entire wedding weekend specifically because we want to be able to spend more than one day with our out of town guests. They travel to Florida and Asia several times a year, so it’s not like they aren’t used to long flights. I totally understand by having an out of town wedding some people will not be able to come, but if they consider it a burden they should just decline and keep their comments to themselves.
After they left my OH’s mother said she couldn’t believe they were so rude and thinks they might be jealous, but that it is our turn to be in the spotlight now and they need to get over it (they got married last year). Maybe they are jealous, but this behavior didn’t start with our engagement. They’ve been this way since I met them. I was excited to meet them and get to know them, and it’s kind of upsetting that they can’t just be happy for us ☹️
