Hello ladies
ive been thinking about posting this for a couple of weeks now but have been too nervous, I don't like to admit how shallow I am, but I am extremely uncomfortable in my own skin. I know all girls have something they aren't quite as keen on, and I'm not taking anything away from those feeling, but this is to the point that I've done drastic and silly things in the past to try and change it. I have an anxiety disorder borne out of perfectionism (planning a wedding is therefore obviously the best thing I could put myself through lol!) and my h2b is really supportive and makes sure that when we make wedding decisions we sit together and he helps me say what I really want rather than what I think others will want (I want others to judge things as perfect so they think of me as perfect if that makes sense). This has all actually been ok so far. But now I have to deal with "the dress" my appointment is in a couple of weekends time to go for my first try on and I don't know what I want. My h2b won't be coming with me so I can't rely on his usual way of talking me through things. I genuinely cannot think of one thing about myself that I like. That's not to be dramatic or attention seeking so please please don't think that's it, I used to be a size ten, with big boobs, over the years I've yo-yo'd because of my issues with food and currently sit around the 14-16 mark but am dieting carefully and working hard not to go back to my silly ways. I feel like I can get to my goal weight by the wedding, but I can't do it in the next fortnight so am totally petrified of going dress shopping. I can't bear the idea of the lady seeing me in my pants, or expecting me to take my bra off (I don't know if they do this but in my head every horrible part of my is going to be exposed!) I'm terrified of trying things on and everything looking terrible on me, or not being able to get anything done up because I'm too big. I don't want to spend the day in floods of tears or feeling as sick as I do right now, my mum (who doesn't know about my body image issues and I don't want her too) and one of my bridesmaids who does know a bit wil be with me and I want to have a great day together but I suppose what I'm asking for is advice about dress shopping day - what should. I expect? What can I do to make it better? Just knowing wil help me feel more prepared,
thank you and well do e for getting to the end of my drivel! Xxx