Ok, not quite but I am preempting drama and getting in a flap anyway. Seeing as we've had a handful of RSVP 'no's, I've decided to start tweaking the provisional table plan we made last month and I'm all of a flap now.
I have enough guests to sit 12 at the main table, 10 at the second table (all to do with the size of the tables at the venue) and then a further 10 tables which can sit 8 each. Considering that about 6 of the 104 guests are either highchair-age babies, or younger, this is plenty of room. Great!
But now I'm flapping over the top table. Obviously this is where h2b and I will sit, and our parents - drama #1. My parents are divorced, mum is remarried, dad is not. Dad has veeerrrry little respect for mum's new husband and is quite rude about him. Mum has made it clear she is uncomfortable sitting next to dad (or opposite him seeing as it's a massive round table).
I believe it's also customary for the best man and MOH to sit at the top table - drama #2. MoH has a 1 year old son who she'd like to sit with, and I think she'd rather sit with her other half than on a separate table.
Then there's MY kids - drama #3. My two sons want to sit at the kids' table (yes I know we're bonkers for even considering having one, but we've spoken to the parents of all the relevant children and we've decided it'll be FINE. We have a battle plan ) but my daughter is only 2 and although she's excellently well behaved, I think she's too little to sit by herself. Do I nominate a member of family to watch her, or just put her at the main table with us? Is that not favouring her over the boys a bit, even though they don't want to sit at the top table?!
Would it be an enormous faux pas to have the top table Family Only, and then have the MoH, bridesmaids, Best (Wo)Man and ushers hosting other tables? If we did that, it would take care of 8 tables and leave 2 with no official "host" as such.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRGGGGHHHH!!!! ?