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Beginner September 2017

Second Thoughts

PinkGems254, 1 August, 2017 at 10:28 Posted on Planning 0 2

Hi,

I'm just looking for some thoughts or advice. Our wedding is in 8 weeks and I am having massive second thoughts - not about marrying my fiance but about some aspects of the day and it is really starting to worry me. I want to marry him more than anything but can't seem to get past this feeling.

I am absolutely dreading the thought of walking down the aisle, I hate being to center of attention and the thought of every looking at me and having to speak in front of them is filling me with dread.

My other half also didn't want a stag do and so his siblings / friends are constantly trying to arrange something for the night before the wedding - I'm really worried about what they have planned as they would think nothing of spiking his drink or putting him on a train somewhere the night before the wedding.

His best man makes absolutely no effort to talk or interact with me and completely ignores me when I speak to him. At the minute he is constantly making little digs about how my fiance shouldn't be tied up planning the wedding and how I'm not being good enough for doing it all myself. He is making comments about how he is going to be completely over the top during his speech (despite the fact we have asked him to tone it down because of my grandparents religious beliefs) and how he won't stick to any timings and we can't control anything he does.

Sorry for the long post, I'm just really worried that they are going to do something that will ruin the day and I can't seem to get past the feeling that I just don't want to go through with it. I've talked to my fiance and he says it will all be fine but he isn't around when they make the comments and the closer it gets, the more I want to call the whole thing off!

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Latest activity by ExpensiveYellowConfetti904, 4 August, 2017 at 18:08
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    Beginner September 2017
    FutureMrsTuff2017 ·
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    It sounds like the things you are worrying about are things that are out of your control. Especially re the best man. For some odd reason it sounds like he's trying to get a rise out of you...and it's working. I am sure he will be much better behaved on the day; some guys think it's funny to say they'll be like this. If need be, your OH needs to step in and tell him to sort himself out or just get rid of him and don't have a best man. I think on the day you need to just take one thing at a time. Getting up, getting a bath/shower then think about the next thing as a little step or task in isolation. If you play every single aspect of the day in your head all at once it will feel overwhelming. The main thing is that you still want to marry your OH, keep that in mind no matter what else is happening or what other people do. Good luck with it all x

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    ExpensiveYellowConfetti904 ·
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    I wouldn't worry too much about the best man - on the day he is solo and everyone else will be on your side I am sure he will be taken in hand by other members of the wedding party if he doesn't tow the line., also if you have a master of ceremonies they'll ensure everything goes to plan and you are happy. Put him to the back of your mind - it's not about him, and that's what's killing him! Are you walking down the aisle alone or with someone? My friend didnt walk down the aisle she was at the front with her husband as she felt too nervous, I know how you feel, I don't want to do that part either, so I'm walking down with my children so I will be pre-occupied thinking about them.

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    ExpensiveYellowConfetti904 ·
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    I wouldn't worry too much about the best man - on the day he is solo and everyone else will be on your side I am sure he will be taken in hand by other members of the wedding party if he doesn't tow the line., also if you have a master of ceremonies they'll ensure everything goes to plan and you are happy. Put him to the back of your mind - it's not about him, and that's what's killing him! Are you walking down the aisle alone or with someone? My friend didnt walk down the aisle she was at the front with her husband as she felt too nervous, I know how you feel, I don't want to do that part either, so I'm walking down with my children so I will be pre-occupied thinking about them.

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