Setting a Date

Hi Kerri! Congratulations! How exciting! Why are you unsure of 2024 or 2025? Is it because you have events next year and need more time to save after your 30th and friends wedding? If this is the case? Go and look at your venues you love, get a price and see what dates they are available and this will give you a clearer picture. Us for example, we were going to get married next year but thought it was too soon to save all that money, But the year we get married we have nothing but stag parties, hens, our own stag and hens then our own wedding and friends weddings. So as we see it, there is always going to be something going on. We just need to prioritize and not waste money in silly places. Apologies if I haven’t read your question properly.

View quoted message Hi Shay,


We are worried because of having money to save. Both of us are not on high earning wages so we are a little worried if we book a venue for 2024 and we are still unable to pay off the balance. We were originally planning to go away for my 30th but I’m starting to think that won’t be possible if we have a wedding to plan. We are trying to prioritise certain expenses each month but it’s more myself getting scared that it won’t be possible to save a large amount of money for the wedding we both want.

View quoted message You sound like me! Have a think, whatever you wanted to do for your 30th can this wait? If it was somewhere away could this be your honeymoon instead? We started by writing down everything that people have in a wedding and started scoring out what wasn’t important to us to save money. So we are getting married peak time, but luckily our venue is the same price all year round. You say October so you have saved money there right away as it is out of peak season. Could this be a weekday wedding too? We are not doing favours. We are not doing a 3 course meal? There is food, but it’s food trucks and the savings there are huge! Our venue doesn’t need decorations. My MIL is making the flowers. My bridesmaids will be doing their own hair and make up, or paying for it themselves. They are aware of this and I have done the same as a bridesmaid. We have a nice car, this is our wedding car. All these things add up so if they aren’t important to you, cut them out. We were bad for take aways so we allow 1 a month now. It’s amazing when you break it down what you waste money on regularly and on the actual day itself? Don’t stop your whole life Ofcourse. Just prioritize. I do hope this helps, as it helped me.

Three years from now is a long time to maintain the hype, I would go for 2024 if you can. March 2024 bride here and at 7 months closer than your proposed earliest date it still feels way too far away to get properly excited. I’m hoping after Xmas that will change though!

If money is the only thing that is making you delay, then I would suggest doing some planning & number crunching to work out how much you actually want your wedding to cost. You don't have to have something just because other people do, so don't be afraid to ditch things that you don't really, really want to have. We had a wedding for 30 for under £3,000 and could have cut the budget even further, only we were happy to pay out for things that we wanted.

I think you maybe need to strategically look at it, how much will it cost, how much do you need to save, how much will this he per month, and ultimately, can you afford to do that? If not then do the same but for 2025 and see if that’s affordable for you. Only you can make the decision as no one here knows your plans/wages etc!☺️

2025 is a long time before a wedding if you start planning now. As others have said, it really doesn't need to be all the bells and whistles insta wedding.
Also, what are your future plans? If you want to buy a house or start a family, or change jobs, or go back to college or, well any big life stuff..... another year later for later for wedding pushes those life decisions along another year later too....