Hi All,
I really need some impartial advice on my wedding plans and thought this was the best place to start!
I've planned a holiday to New Zealand with my partner and we've decided to get married while we are out there. I was born in NZ and my dad was a Kiwi, so know the country well and it means a lot to me. After 8 months of trying to plan a 'proper' wedding (and getting no where fast) we've decided eloping would be the best option.
Both sides of the family have been unhelpful when we were planning a big wedding, with negative comments about location/church/guests and even the reception food. Because of this we have decided an elopement is what we want - it's about us, we're not worried about what the guests are doing/saying and we can eat what we want!
The problem is I have told my mum our plans (I couldn't have kept them a secret from her - she would never have forgiven me) and my mum got very upset and Has asked if she can come out to NZ to witness the ceremony. But my partners mum will never be able to afford to come out, and will want to if my mum is, which makes it very unfair. Also, having my mum there on the day is changing our very relaxed beach wedding then BBQ into a much more formal affair.
So what do I do? Tell my mum she can't come out because it's unfair on my other half's mum? Let my mum come out if she wants to? Or change my plans?
I'm really stuck here so any help would be appreciated!