Should i go to the party

George, I'm so sorry you're in this dilemma. You should always feel as comfortable in yourself and I think it's great you express yourself through your clothing.


The question is, are your family aware of the change in you attire choice or have they always seen in you "traditionally masc" clothing?
Will you be setting yourself up for dealing with other people's negativity for the whole night if you go as you wish? How would you feel going as "not a gay man" (ouf, that's so horrible).
Your personal peace is way more important than anyone's opinion or judgement. I'm sorry this isn't an answer, but from one queer person to another, I hope you do what feels best for you xx

Ouch! Mum needs to back off!! Wearing a dress is what you like to wear, go for it. Do most of the other guests know you wear dresses and skirts? If not I'd would be a bit of a surprise. Mother could be worried about that? I think you should wear what you want and not what others want you to wear. Thing is, it's so hard, even as an adult, knowing our own minds, we don't want to upset parents, even if it means hiding a part of who you are. Another option could be a compromise, trousers and a feminine top/ blouse with nice jewellery? One of my friends wears typically female clothes and we were all on holiday together in Singapore a few uears ago- we were all a bit worried about how accepting they would be, but while my friend started in trousers and a top, by the end of the holiday he was in a dress and everyone was very accepting. Even the Chirch we went to didn't bat an eye.
Good luck x