Should I postpone/cancel/change the date of the wedding?

Aw hun, it's no wonder your head is all over the place but congratulations! I can empathise to an extent after having trouble getting my pregnant myself. After what happened last year I can understand totally why you fear it happening again too.

Under the circumstances I would hold off paying any more deposits until you've seen a doc & know how far gone you are. If you are due in July I'd say postpone! Getting married so soon after giving birth will be very hard. The month before the wedding is the busiest & you will already have your hands full!

Congratulations and really crossing my fingers for you that everything goes well.#

Your head must be all over the place now so I really feel for you.

It is entirely up to you (obviously) but if it were me I would postpone, you will be stressing about wedding stuff when you are pregnant which might not be that good for you and you can then focus on enjoying the pregnancy and then enjoy planning a wedding seperately.

xx

This!

Also, hopefully the bean will stick and he/she will be able to take part of the big day when you plan it all over again!

I don't see a bad side to postpone, as it sounds having a baby is a bit of a priority for you guys, if the worst happens and this bean doesn't stick, you would still be able to focus on your health and having this plan done first.

Good luck x

It'd be a lot less stressful for you. Coudl you bring it forward rather than postpone? I would certainly consider moving it somehow in your shoes. I hope it all works out ok for you x

Wow, I can see why this is a tough decision for you. I think most people will agree that if all goes well then a wedding on Aug 1st is really not a possibility. If the baby is late this could literally be a few weeks before your wedding day. Dress/appearance worries aside, how practical will that really be?!

How big are the deposits and how much would it impact you financially if you lost them? No one would be happy to lose money but if you realistically think you could afford to plan again if you have to cancel in a a few months time when you know all is going well with the pregnancy then that wouldn't be the end of the world.

You could try just being totally honest with the wedding planner. Find out if they have dates free in say 4-7 months time that you may be able to tentatively reserve? I've been to plenty of weddings now where the bride is very visibly pregnant! I know this may be tricky for OHs parents but I'm sure they will be delighted with the news of being grandparents and will do everything they can to work something out.

Well firstly, congratulations! I hope it all goes well and to plan. Regarding your wedding, I think that it really depends on what sort of event you were planning on having. If it is going to be a massive lavish affair then I would agree with the others and consider postponing. Have a chat with OH's parents and identify some suitable dates, then talk to your wedding planner.

However, if you were planning something smaller and informal I would consider still going ahead. It could be the perfect occasion to welcome the new little one into the family. If you have a lot of close family and friends that can support you, and you aren't planning on doing everything DIY then it could work really well. I wouldn't worry about what you'll wear or any of that, as at the end of the day it dosn't matter, your getting married not hosting the Oscars! And if the worst happened, and you miscarried, planning your special day might give you a focus and something to look forward to.

(This is all caveated by the fact that I don't yet have any children and I have no experience of the final weeks before a wedding!)

Perhaps you could wait until your 12 week scan before you make any decisions?

Hope it all goes well x

Thanks everyone for your advice/comments.

I bought my dress in March 2013 and it is actually too big - would need it altering to fit.

I wouldn't mind being pregnant at the wedding as we both want to be parents. I'm also worried that some of the family are quite old, my OH's uncle is 84, his parents are in their 70's and my mum is 67. Not that I'm saying anything will happen to any of them but it's just another thing to think about.

Will let you know next week what the outcome of the meeting with the venue is.

Congratulations, I can totally understand why your head is all over the place. Trying to move it forward sounds like a good option if you can find a date that works

I can't offer any more advice other than that which has ready said.

I just wanted to pop in and say congratulations!!