Should i sort out mother of groom hair and make up?

No. That’s for her to sort. Maybe if she was showing more of an interest then maybe ask her if she wanted to get ready with you and your maids and mother.. but no. If my partners mother was like this then I’d just leave her to it x

Does she try to change the subject when the wedding is mentioned or is it just that she isn't asking questions but will listen if you bring it up? In general a wedding is more interesting to the couple involved and unfortunately not everyone will be excited about it.


How about asking her if she would like to get ready with you and the rest of your bridal party before the wedding? If she says no then that answers your 2nd question as well because I wouldn't think to organise her hair and make unless she was getting ready with you.

Have you spoken to your OH about this? Maybe MIL just isn't in to weddings. Mine wasn't really bothered. She was delighted we were getting married, and would ask how plans were going out of politeness, but she never wanted to know details or be involved in any way, and was relieved just to have to turn up on the day.

As for the hair and makeup, it's usually up to the MOG to sort herself out. Our mothers just turned up with their usual look.

My mother in law showed very little interest in the whole wedding process. I don’t have much of a relationship with her as she’s elderly (87) so doesn’t use any technology and only calls us on the land line when she wants to tell us something. 🤣My now husband hardly ever sees her to be honest as she lives alone and doesn’t drive. My folks live much further away but are super involved in my whole life and always have been. It’s just a different relationship and I left her to it, she just turned up with the help of my husband’s other siblings who picked her up and drove her there and back, they didn’t even stay past 9pm for the evening reception. My husband enjoys the company of my family more, you can’t choose your family! I wouldn’t worry about it as I’m sure she can sort her out hair and make up. I actually didn’t get my mums hair and makeup done as she preferred to do her own.

Personally I’m not sorting out my mother-in-laws hair, dress or make up, but I suppose it’s up to you. If I’m honest I probably won’t be sorting out my own mothers. She’s very picky and I’m happy for her to do what she wants. But I wouldn’t say it was for you to sort it

I think it is up to you as to how you judge your relationship with her. It also depends on the size of your bridal party and how big your budget is. I asked both my mum and mother-in-law if they would like to get it done as I know some people like to do their own. Also speak to your partner about it as well.

I think it's a nice touch to sort out your MIL hair and make up. If she isn't girly or very 'into' the whole wedding thing, it might help her to feel more comfortable and more involved in the morning / getting ready process. I asked both my Mum and MIL - at least then nobody can complain that they haven't been included.

Hello,
I'm including my future mother in law in the in the makeup and hair a long with my own mam and bridal party. I have a lovely relationship with her and my future husband is her first child to get married . Both her and my mam get on well I'm very happy to include her

Honestly it hadn't even crossed my mind! I personally think your getting ready people should be your closest people who will keep you the calmest and at your most relaxed - usually the bridesmaids, possibly your own mum, if MIL falls into that category it's a nice gesture but I don't think it's one of those things that would be expected at all.