I need a bit of advice on how to handle this one!
Invitations have gone out, and one guest ( close friend) didn't respond by the deadline.
When I've told her about the wedding, she's not been particularly interested (fair enough, not everyone is). She's never asked about how the plans are going, said anything about looking forward to it etc. When I've asked her about attending / receiving the invitation she's not been very enthusiastic and blustered a little bit (again, fair enough it's not her wedding...).
We're having a smallish wedding (40 guests) - this is strict limit because to the size of the venue. It's an all day event - no difference between day / evening guests.
This friend is single. 4 other guests at the wedding are single.
My friends are spread across the country, rather than one big group. This friend has met 2 or 3 other guests on the odd occasion (including 2 of the single guests) but does not know anyone else well (the same can be said for most of my friend guests).
She's just RVSP'd, with the words "Attending with a plus one".
I'm a bit surprised as no plus ones have been invited (fiance and I have met all the other named partners).
As it stands, we are at capacity on our guest list. We have 2 elderly relatives who have health problems and are unable to confirm until nearer the date - we have kept places open for them.
If one of these relatives is unable to attend, there would be space for a plus one - I think I'm just a bit annoyed that she's responded in this way.
I don't know who she has in mind for her +1 and I don't know if we want 'unknowns' there (though we could arrange to meet the +1 beforehand). But I don't know how to respond to her.
I don't want her to be uncomfortable at our wedding, but I do feel it is unreasonable of her to have responded like this, with no discussion.
There might not even be space for a +1, but we won't know this until the last minute.
Has anyone else had this?
Not sure how to handle it...
