So I’ll try to keep this short (probably won’t be haha), when I got engaged my sister didn’t seem too excited and said to me to ‘enjoy the bubble while it lasts’. I’ve not had a card/gift from her but when she got engaged I sent personalised cookies and cards etc.
It’s extremely difficult to plan anything with her involvement as she has a 3 year old and is so militant with naps etc. we are lucky to see her once a month for a ‘hello’. I booked two wedding dress shopping days (1 month apart) to suit the only available dates she gave me. She’s cancelled last minute on the first one - the dress shop is 1 minute walk away from her house. (For context, I only booked that shop because my mum encouraged me to do it so it would be convenient for my sister).
The second dress appointment I booked, again to suit her schedule, she’s cancelled because she’s ‘in the office the day before’…your guess is as good as mine as to what that means. When I spoke to my parents about this, they said that the wedding dress shopping is not as ‘important as the alteration appointments’ and they will ‘make sure she goes to the alteration appointments’. I honestly am I a bit gobsmacked. The dress shopping is supposed to be the most exciting and happy moments of my life and now it’s been made to be an inconvenience.
To top all of this off, when I announced to my family we booked the wedding venue and the wedding will be on a Sunday, my sister said in front of the whole family how ‘inconvenient it will be for everyone’ and that she and her husband will be at work the next day (not sure why she can’t book annual leave when I had to book a whole week off for her wedding). She then said I should just book the wedding for a Saturday and get married at a registry office in the town and then have the reception at a pub - this is not my personal preference as we have booked a lovely venue with gardens & a fountain etc.
I have had the advice to speak to my parents, but they’re either too scared to speak to her/upset her or genuinely think the sun shines out of her a**e. I also mentioned recently how upset I was that at her wedding (I was MOH) she sat me at the back of the room for the wedding breakfast. My parents didn’t say anything to that and just said ‘your sister needs to sit as close to the top table as possible’.
I really feel like cancelling all the appointments and going on my own, it’s really ruining my experience so far and honestly feel this is just the start of it. I have to ask her to be my MOH (parents have insisted) so god knows how much she will help.
Do I just have to bite my lip for the next 14 months and hope things get better? I can’t speak to her because she will quite literally never speak to me again (she’s extremely confrontational) and I know even if I dealt with it in the best way I could, my parents would still say I’m in the wrong.
If anyone has had anything similar happen or just any advice to help my try to focus on the nice things it would truly help
Thank you so so much xx
