I hope that someone has had a similar situation to this, or at the very least can hopefully give me some advice on what you would do?!
My sister (32) and I (28) have always been very close and even lived a few doors down from eachother at one point! When she got pregnant she totally distanced herself, told the whole family and kept it from me until she was 5 1/2 months pregnant, I was totally broken, although I never said anything. We’ve slowly gotten a bit closer and this year I’ve moved closer to family and her - just a 15 min drive away. It’s been 5 months and she’s not once come to see our new house. We are now engaged (so so happy and excited) and really feel like I’m on cloud 9, but I do feel a little upset about her attitude.
When I FaceTimed her when I got engaged (we were staying at a cottage a few hours away from home) she seemed happy but kept saying ‘enjoy the bubble while it lasts’ which I thought was a little negative. We are looking at a venue for a Sunday next year (I know, Sundays can be a difficult one for some people!!) but we are buying a house as well so we are being sensible and not spending a huge amount on the wedding - it’s about the marriage more than the wedding! She has a 2 year old who will be almost 4 by the wedding, but she has said she will need to leave the wedding by 5pm (the venue is a 20 min drive away from her home) because my nephew needs to stick to his bedtime routine.
I said this will of course be really sad as I was her MOH 6 years ago so obviously she will be mine, plus looking at the time line of the day she will leave right after desert. I am also now organising a dress shopping day, brunch and celebrating with a drink (if we find the dress!) with my mum, my fiancés mum and grandma, but she said she can only stay for an hour or two. It’s a difficult position to put me in as I was there for everything for her wedding/dress fittings etc. as she also had her dress and our bridesmaid dresses designed so we had a LOT of appointments as you can imagine! I’m just a bit disappointed she’s not making a bit more of an effort, and something so small, but I haven’t even gotten a card off her
It’s not jealousy as she got married years ago, very snazzy wedding and mine is totally the opposite, very small and more of a chilled vibe (I hate loads of attention so don’t want a big one).Am I being unreasonable for wanting her to be a bit more involved? I hope I’m not being entitled here, I’m really not that kind of person! But my fiancé does agree with me and he is using every fibre in his being not to say something to my parents about it haha - my parents always take her side with things so that makes it more difficult.
Any advice or anyone who’s been through something by similar?! Thanks so much
