Small Circle

The whole point of a wedding is surely to celebrate two people building a new life together, so it really shouldn't matter which one of you has the most guests since everyone is coming to celebrate both of you making a commitment to each other.

As long as you don't split the guests up into a 'groom's side' and a 'bride's side', people won't even notice anyway. And I much prefer weddings where they don't ask people to sit on different sides depending on who they know anyway - sometimes, I genuinely don't know which side I should sit on as I know both halves of the couple equally well. And even if I know one better than the other, it still seems odd to be dividing people up like that when the whole wedding is about celebrating unity, not division!

View quoted message Thank you! We aren’t doing a bride and groom side but I think my OH was concerned a bit about my (few) guests and was trying to reassure me! We’ve started working on table plans so everyone can get to know people etc! It’s no bother to me but I think he was concerned for me! 🤣

I have been to so many weddings and unless they have done 'bride and groom sides', I honestly couldn't have told you how many of the guests were there for the bride and how many for the groom. I usually know who on my table knew the bride/groom first, since asking how someone got to know the couple is a fairly common conversation starter, but no one is going to think twice about numbers. Even if people do work out that he has farm more guests than you, it won't be an issue for anyone, but people are probably not going to even think about it.