Small Wedding Ceremony, Big Party After

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Once again another example of family thinking they have a ‘right’ to be included/invited/involved in your wedding!
You say they haven’t been there for you the last few years I take that to mean you are not close?

Try not to get stressed or upset just set it out simply letter/email/phone call/in person chat, you have decided your plans for your wedding, you would love them to join you with all your other guests at the reception party.
It is no slight on them just you and your fiancé’s choice of how to have your wedding and if they choose not to come, that’s up to them not you.
I had similar with an aunt she sent a message accidentally including my mum threatening to boycott my wedding as I didn’t invite my cousins (coz we don’t get on) and they weren’t her children but my other aunt who was coming, all her kids were invited! In my case a small Covid wedding made it a moot point anyway but it’s completely her choice on how our relationship is from now on, I feel no guilt for planning the day I wanted and I was not going to pay for people I didn’t like just because!

View quoted message Thank you so much for replying, you’ve made me feel 10x better. They were nasty to me during my whole pregnancy last year and things haven’t been the same tbh. She’s playing the card of ‘you’ve invited friends over us’ and I’m like yes, because my two best friends have been more like family than yous all my life!!


No body else has a problem with our plans, just them two and it’s so childish!! Thank you again, I will set it out explaining that we’ve decided our plans etc! ❤️

I’m sorry you’ve lost the excitement for your wedding. If they are guilt tripping you and making you feel bad about yourself then they don’t really sound like the type of people I’d want at my wedding anyway.
At the end of the day this is your day and you guys should be planning the day you both want. If they don’t like it then that’s their problem.