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Beth
Beginner June 2027 Kent

Small wedding worries

Beth, 17 January, 2025 at 21:50 Posted on Planning 0 2
Hi, long story short my fiancé wants a very small wedding - 15 people made up of our young children, our parents and siblings. Even having my grandparents there is taking a lot of convincing. I do understand and somewhat agree, it’s nothing to do with budget, we just don’t like to be centre of attention, he doesn’t enjoy parties, I prefer chatting to people. I’m a bit gutted I won’t have my friends there but once you invite one friend then others feel left out and it spirals and we could easily end up with over 100 people which seems quite overwhelming to me.
But I’m having trouble imagining how the day is going to go without a usual reception/party and am worried it’s going to be awkward or boring, especially for my children! He’s not worried in the slightest and would be happy to get married, eat and go bed to be honest lol. Don’t know if I’m over thinking it!
Any ideas for making small weddings still fun and memorable or just reassurances please

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Latest activity by Joan, 21 January, 2025 at 05:20
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    Your wedding day is the day you make a serious and legal commitment to each other, so that's pretty special all by itself!

    Years ago, weddings used to be just the ceremony and a meal - it's only fairly recently that they've become all day things that go on into the early hours of the next morning - and the people who got married back then still viewed their wedding day as special. You really don't need a load of people or a long party with lots of entertainment for it to be meaningful.

    Also, when you are not having to pay out for a huge guest list, you have money to go towards making what you do have really special. So push the boat out on your meal, cake, flowers, outfits or whatever else is meaningful to you. And don't skimp on photography just because you are a small group. Your photos are the one thing apart from your rings that you will get to keep, so find a photographer whose work you really love and book them with all the money you're saving by avoiding the huge guest list!

    As for the kids, I would pick a venue that has some space for them to hang out - outdoor space for if the weather is good and a side room if it's wet. And then provide some age-appropriate toys/activities to keep them occupied while the adults chill out over a relaxed meal.

    And while you are inevitably going to be the centre of attention on your wedding day, there are lots of things you can do to reduce the focus on yourselves. Instead of having the groom waiting at the front for the bride's big entrance, either both be at the venue to greet guests as they arrive or if that's too informal for you, then walk up the aisle together. Don't have speeches. Reduce the formal photos to the bare minimum.

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