So, my sister hates my dad - wwyd

I don't think you're overreacting. You could perhaps send a first e mail just letting her know that what she said upset you as you are close to your Dad and see what she says, it may help you to get to the bottom of the issue. If she then says anything negative, you could then ask that she nots speak of him again and you'll return the favour.

I think you did well not to mention it there and then. I'd definitely say something - you don't speak about someone that someone you're with cares about in that way.

Hi, I normally post on WP but thought I would pop over here for a bit ?

My dad and I are so alike we fight like cat and dog sometimes, could this be the case between your dad and your sister?

Have you ever tried asking her why she feels this way about him, has your dad ever said why they don't get along?

If something was to happen to your dad I'm sure she would be hurt and upset, not that she could see if now but it always happens 9 times out of 10 anyway.

It is obviously having some sort of impact on the rest of the family, they shoud be able to sort things out between themselves, they are both adults.

I would drop her an email just asking that she keeps her horrid comments to herself - There's no need for it, especially when you are so close to him - I can understand why its upsetting for you.

No need for it to become a huge issue but I think you let her know that you're offended.

That's a hideous thing to say, I'd be really upset.

Do I recall that you and your sister don't have a great/close relationship and she's pretty tricky to get along with?

Personally, I don't think that's a conversation for email. As you didn't tackle it at the time I wouldn't bring it up over email, possibly not even over the phone, although that would be preferable. I think the tone could come across really badly on email and you risk making it a whole lot worse. If she were to mention it again then I would say "I meant to ask you when you were here, what's the issue between you and Dad. I was quite taken aback by your comments when you last visited and meant to bring it up then" but until then I'd bite my tongue or call her and be direct.

Debs, I pretty much know why they don't get along, and it is a situation they both exacerbate that has built up over a number of years. I accept they are not really likely to want any contact with each other, and, generally, it doesn't impact on anyone else, since my sister is mostly out of the country.

I think I will drop her an email. We're not close and I don't want some kind of family row/big deal made out of it, but I would like her to know that it is hurtful to say something so blatantly cold.

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Pooch, I won't be seeing her again face to face for months, and we last spoke on the phone about 18 months ago. It would honestly seem like I was making a big deal out of it if I actually called her. I know what you mean about tone/email though.

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