Social Media Uploads

Nah, I don't think it's rude. If you can word it politely then you'll be fine. This sort of thing crops up a lot on here, and I think a lot of people feel the same. I wasn't bothered personally, but then nobody outside our guests really knew we were getting married, so Facebook was how we announced it to everyone else, so to speak.

I agree with you, I want the evening guests to see us for the time when they arrive, not have already seen every angle via FB before they have got their!

I went to an evening reception last year, and I saw all the pics from the day via FB before I had even left the house! I was quiet excited at the time; but with the shoe on the other foot that's not what I want for my wedding.

I was thinking of doing something; not sure what THB.

We want to do that. Something along the lines of "no spoilers please!"

I don't mind people uploading pictures after the evening guests have arrived and settled, after the first dance they can upload what they want!

It's not rude to slip a note in the Order of Service.

I was not bothered. However, even if our guests obliged, the ABC tweeted a photo of us. So, sometimes it's out of your control in any event. ?

I was looking for some words on pintrest but didnt really find anything - would be helpful if someone already has something short sweet and to the point that they wouldnt mind sharing!

I saw a friend of a friends wedding vows before the end of the church service......was quiet upsetting for her I think!

I don't think it's rude at all. I think it's far more rude to be uploading pictures almost immediately to social media. I don't think people do it to be rude though, or even really give it much thought. It's the day and age we live in- take a photo, upload it, forget about it, find it on time hop 3 years later ?

We'll be asking guests to refrain from taking photos during key moments and not to share them on social media. We want the first photos people see from the day to be the ones we actually want and have paid for.

What about something like these?

We included these on our invites, perhaps you can create a wedpics account and ask that people refrain from FB/Instagram altogether?

OoOo Yes! Perfect - Just a small piece of paper in the back of the order of service (no doubt someone will miss it and upload but!!) - oh good, im glad im not the only one who is a bit anti! The Sunday after the wedding - upload to your hearts content!!

I'm so glad to have seen this as I feel the same and didn't want my evening guests to see all the pictures on Facebook first. I would never upload during a wedding myself and think it's a bit rude. Didn't want to seem like Bridezilla but may put this in the order of service as well!

I've set set an account on wedpics.com and will be put this in with the invites

I may pinch the idea of the chalk board as well.

Perhaps if you use the wording, recommended above, and put it in both the invitation and the order of service. So that way when it goes out with invitation, people have more time to read through things. Or even as wording if you are providing your own RSVP slips.

It is not rude at all to ask. I got married in a stately home where high heels were not allowed, so I included that in the invitation and it was adhered to.

I'm totally with you and don't think it's rude at all. I would find it much ruder for guests at my wedding to be sat on facebook uploading pics of our wedding! Someone I know on Facebook got married last year and I saw all the photos of her and the wedding by around 3:30pm! It made me realise how awful I would feel if I was plastered all over facebook before my evening guests arrived. We are planning on having a huge, framed chalkboard with the order of our day on and are thinking about adding some words at the bottom about no uploads until at least the day after. I like the 'no spoilers please' suggestion. May use that somehow!

We included this on our invitations (well, on the information card included with the invites) ''please feel free to take photos, but we kindly request you do not put them on social media''. We will also be asking the registrar to announce it at the beginning. My friends know I'm wary of social media anyway due to my career, but also I don't really care if it's rude... it's my wedding and I don't want unflattering shots on the internet!