Social media uploads on wedding day

I've seen signage used about "unplugged ceremonies" basically asking people not to use their phones/take photos/post to SM


I think it's "etiquette" to not post anything on SM before the bride and groom do, but I guess not everyone even thinks before posting...
Personally for me, it really doesn't bother me. Our nearest and dearest will be there with us and I couldn't give a stuff if anyone else then "sees" things before I get around to posting
I think it's very different to birth or engagement announcements where generally all your closest people aren't there with you at the time those things happen and so you want to announce it yourself
But, a wedding? They're all there. Let them be excited and do what they like regarding posting! That's my opinion on it anyway but, I know many feel like you...
Get a sign made if its something that will really bother you

You are not alone and quite often in a civil ceremony if you ask them then the registrar will make an announcement for you about not (please ) not posting on the day. Don't forget to make sure that your suppliers also know that they should wait until you have posted. When asked I send the sneak peaks to the couple so that they can post them and then I post. But usually they are happy for me to go ahead. I did once hear a story of a MUA who posted photos of the bride in the morning after she was ready even before the ceremony !

I have even seen a photographer who will charge more if you do not want them to post on social media.

If it bothers you, I would just have an announcement or a sign (or both) that requests people not to post photos until you have. But honestly, I wouldn't worry too much. We didn't have great internet access on our honeymoon, so most of our friends and family had seen our photographer's first few photos long before we did, never mind everyone else's!

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Yes, we had to wipe a photographer off our shortlist when she insisted we agreed to her posting any photo she took at our wedding onto all her social media accounts. We had invited a family who do not allow any photos of their children to appear anywhere online and explained this to her, but she still insisted that she had the right to post their pics or use them in her advertising...

Hi Abby! I’m not on social media and my partner doesn’t post anything so in my circumstance I wouldn’t see it anyway. BUT, I do think it’s rude when guests post on the day. Just enjoy it and be present and upload tomorrow. We are having no phones or cameras in the church. Once we are out snap away as you please. However, 2 of my friends will be having no phones all day as they think when you see drunken bridesmaids on the toilet (hah, yes I’ve seen those in the past) and drunken behavior they think it lowers the class of the day. each to their own but I’ve never thought about it that deep. Regarding the comment above about photographers posting, I never thought about it that way. They should take that into consideration. There is a photographer near where we live and every wedding she does she posts over 100 on her Facebook and I personally think that’s ridiculous and although I never considered her that’s something that would have put me off. Our venue has asked if they can post and understand if we don’t want them too. I think we have to respect that it’s how they advertise but businesses should respect the couples privacy aswell. I don’t mind the odd thing but I wouldn’t want a whole album for the world to see on there.

View quoted message This is very true and I’ve been thinking it’s really not a big deal 😅 will obviously be unplugged for the ceremony but the reception is okay and like you said all those I care about will be there anyway!! Thanks for your reply x

View quoted message Omg that’s crazy that she posted the bride before the ceremony!! And the photographer charging more, I haven’t heard of this!

View quoted message Thanks for your reply, this is very true I think I was over thinking it. Like someone else’s said once the whole ceremony part is over it doesn’t matter what people post really! Hope you had a great wedding and honeymoon

View quoted message Yes I wouldn’t want to go down the ‘ no phones’ route I would find that strange if I went to a wedding. I get it but I think it’s very extreme ! Luckily my venue and photographer seem respectful from what I’ve seen with their posts and I’ll have a chat with my photographer nearer the time. Thanks for your reply x

I got married on 28th May and I said no photos on my Facebook, I will post the first pic to tell everyone
, then if you want to post then that’s fine,

But no one did, I sent them on watsapp and fb messenger, I uploaded the pics on fb on the Saturday when I was home from honeymoon and family sent me pics though txts to upload ,

We are getting our Celebrant to make an announcement about not posting photos until we have. We would like to chose the first picture which people see 😊

For such a thing, we decided on the contrary so that our photos would be seen by as many people as possible, and we decided that we would buy facebook account that was already ready, so to speak, promoted , uploaded photos there, and an excellent album came out

Having been married before and been to quite a few weddings, my favourite example of how to navigate this was my sister put a little easel up saying no photos today, and the minister actually asked that no one share photos on social media until the bride and groom had posted. You do what you feel is right! You're absolutely well within your rights to request this. I wasn't so bothered last time, and this time, I don't even have social media so care even less haha!

It's definitely a tricky situation. While it’s great that your guests are excited and want to share the joy, I agree that it can feel a bit off when they post pictures before you’ve had the chance to share them yourself. After all, it’s your big day, and you deserve to have the first look at your moments!