Sorry girls another bridesmaid drama

Aww hun, sounds pants! My MOH was very similar to start with, shes getting much better now but I berated her for not being interested to start with. Turns out she had a lot more on her plate that she didnt want to talk about/wasnt ready to talk about. Now I feel awful for not giving her some time, and thinking she should drop everything for my wedding. Im not saying thats what your doing but do you think there maybe something she has going on at the moment?

Why dont you try and talk to her about it? Just be honest and open and tell her you hoped she would be a bit more supportive?

Really hope you get it sorted.

I really dont know I have sent other messages that are not wedding related just asking how she is etc but I dont get any response from those either. I just wanted for her to feel involved and didnt want to leave her out of anything. When I try to call instead of texting she doesnt answer. Or if she does respond like she did about the fayre its weeks down the line.

I think that I will try to send her another text telling her how I feel. But then another side of me thinks why do I have to keep chasing her a friendship should be about 2 people.

Im glad it worked out well in the end with your MOH. X

Hi, I know exactly how you feel as I was in a very similar situation. My friend and i had always said we'd be each other's bridesmaids since we were very young but over the last few years we'd lost touch and I have friends I am now closer to than her. Earlier this year we met up again and it felt right to ask her to be my bridesmaid as although I have friends I now see a lot more of than her, I had been friends with her a lot longer. She was made up but since that day she kept letting me down whenever we arranged to meet up and rarely answered texts. It got to the point where I thought I'd rather not have her as bridesmaid than worry she's going to let me down. I felt like I didn't just want her turning up on the day when I'd barely seen her all year! Anyway, I ended up saying to her maybe it's better she isn't a bridesmaid as she keeps letting me down all the time and it's stressing me out worrying about if she's going to let me down on the day and I didn't want to never see her then she just turns up to be BM. I said I didn't want us to end up falling out but that's how I was feeling. I'm so glad I said something as she said to me she didn't realise that she'd bothered me so much by cancelling our arrangements all the time and she'd just had a lot on and not been very thoughtful. She said she would never let me down with anything wedding related and would still love to be my bridesmaid. Since then she's made much more effort to keep in touch and I'm now looking forward to her being a bridesmaid as she's now a friend again rather than a stranger just turning up on the day! Sometimes people just don't realise how they are coming across or how their actions are affecting you. I don't know if that's the case with your MOH but I think the best way to resolve it is to just ring her and ask her straight out if she really wants to do it as you are feeling a bit hurt that she doesn't seem to be interested. Otherwise you are going to continue feeling this way and you'll end up falling out with her anyway. Good luck! I'm sure you'll get it all sorted out for the best either way.

WendyQ, that is exactly how it is with us, although we have been friends for years like you we became distant and only really started meeting up again this year! I too have other friends who Im much closer too now who are my other bridesmaids - Think im just gonna have to bite the bullet and just ask her outright like you did.

I really do hope we can sort things out it would be such a shame to let 14yrs of friendship go down the drain. Will let you know how I get on!

Thank x

Hope you get it sorted. Ring her now! You'll feel much better once you've got it over with. Hopefully anyway!

Why do you call her? Much easier to sort things out that way as text messages can often be misconstrued.