stag do strop!

Hi,

I don't think you can get them to change the date I would be feeling exactly the same tho. Poor you

From a purely practical point of view - he's likely to be absolutely knackered after a weekend stag and if he has to go back to work in between that and the wedding, he might be pretty tired still by the following weekend.

However, if it's already booked I really don't think there's anything you can do about it. It's not the end of the world - just not ideal.

Yes it is annoying but with careful planning you can have all the i's dotted and t's crossed before he goes away and just hope he comes back in one piece...

we had ours on the same weekend (last weekend!) 4 weeks before the wedding.

Apparently it's not booked yet, the best man told my dad he was working on everyone being available that weekend.

So I might still have a chance the persuade them to change it?

My Hen was two weeks ago so key people could attend. A week before is pushing it but it will be fine, try not to worry - not too much you can do if its all booked, better just to smile and grin through it at this stage I reckon! Make sure they all have time to pick up their suits though.

xxx

What does your OH say? It's his stag do. It might be that that's the only weekend everyone can go.

Mine refused to have it the weekend before as he didn't want to look haggard on the day! Ha!

He hasn't said much, he doesn't really have much say in it. The best man really isn't listening to him as he just keeps saying its fine I'm paying for it. I have said to him that the main thing to think of is the wedding not the stag do!

My OH will also have work between the stag do and the wedding so I'm sure he will be shattered for the wedding.

I just hope my OH gets a back bone and says its not a great idea to have it the week before.

As it's not booked I'd say to him about the tireness factor but I don't think you can tell him when he can or can't have his stag.

I do think it's a bit silly to do it so soon though.

How well do you know the best man?

I wouldn't be happy with this at all - a week before seems a bit pointlessly close esp if they're going away, but if that's the only time everyone can get together, then I can understand it and I'm sure it'll be fine. If it was me I'd leave it up to my OH but secretly hope he makes a stand! I wouldn't want my hen do that close to the wedding!

I wouldn't be happy with it ... purely based on the fact i'd be worried someone might shave his eyebrow off or something and it not have time to grow backi! haha!

I think you should say look please change it! How long till the wedding? I'm sure if it's not pre-booked it can be changed! Men ey? Never think of the bigger picture! xxx I hope you sort it !!!

I don't think you are being unreasonable, I would feel exactly the same!

Going away the weekend before the wedding, in my eyes really is too close, like you say he will be shattered with having to go back to work inbetween the two.

I would speak to your OH and say you are concerned about him being tired etc and can he speak to his best man to change the date, the wedding is the main thing here. Even if he isn't paying for it, its still his stag do!!!

Hope they change the date

Boys are stupid. Make some sh*t up about HAVING to see the registrar/venue/etc the weekend before that can't be moved.

We sat and planned ours together, to fit in with work commitments, social stuff etc, and neither one of us wanted it less than a month before. I would suggest your OH doesn't get how tough it might be to do it that close. Talk to him!!

Honestly. I would speak to the best man myself - if he's not married, he probably doesn't realise how much needs to be done the weekend before the wedding. Plus, with there being a flight involved, I'd assume they're going abroad? Anything could happen. Could get stuck out there, he could break his leg and be unable to fly back etc etc. I know it's extreme, but I wouldn't be risking it a week before the big day.

^^^^ this made me giggle so hard, water that I had just gulped leaked from my nose!!!!!

Oh I'd be concerned too, OH is always tired in everyday life that's without a stag do thrown in to the mix! I imagine there'll be a lot to do in the week running up to the big day.

I agree you can't tell him when to have his own stag but I would sit down and explain just how busy that week will be, if he still sticks to that date/refuses to bring it up with the best man I'd tell him you don't care how knackered he is that week - you're giving him his list of jobs and expect it done! He better pull his weight too.