Stag Night Worries - Help!

Theres more than one jelly/ladies combo on offer in the UK?! Wowzers, had no idea there was that much demand for it!

*must check those receipts hidden in MrMinis wallet left over from his stag*

welcome to Hitched by the way! Great way to make friends!

Hi HP

I really would try to let it go - two girls who you can pay to take their clothes off and wrestle in jelly are no threat to you and your relationship - the boy clearly loves you to marry you!

I think you need to let it go - your h2b was obviously drinking a lot and probably would not have wanted to seem like a killjoy by saying no to the things his dudes had organised.

Try to wipe the mental images and know that it was a one off!

Clare

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I would just like to clarify that the girls i mentioned offer this service off their own backs and is nothing to do with me or my business. pesonally i think its tasteless

thank you for quoting what i said but maybe you should consider this mini...i replied to this post offering an alternative view to try and help someone put their mind at rest, i wasnt expressing my personal opinion. with regardsto your previous comment stating you would cancel the wedding immediately, burn your wedding dress, shot?? the best man and possibly tar and feather the groom in the street " well im sure that has mede the poor girl feel on top of the world, i bet that was exactly the kind of advice she was seeking when she joined

Surely - surely - it was obvious that Mini was joking? No?

Erm...clearly I wasnt being serious. Its impossible to buy small quantaties of tar anyway ?

it may be tasteless- but at least they arnt doing anything *intamate* eh?!

apaz not Footlong- I am known for my medieval forms of retribution. I put MrMini in the stocks last week for leaving the loo seat up.

I thought that warranted being hung, drawn and quartered. ? I must brush up on my medieval crime and punishment.

Sorry to spoil the party girls but im not interested in puerile behaviour so i shall leave you to it

says the lady who runs the jelly/strippers combo....

please don't flounce- we havent even got to know you!

Wowsers. Ok I wouldnt be happy either but it's done now. He didn't set out to do it and im sure he realises how upset you were. You do need to let it go now. If its any consolation he isn't the first and won't be the last to be dragged into silly stag doo antics.

Wait.. you mean that's not how you make friends?! I've been going about this all wrong!!

And OP, you've had all sorts of different views on the subject. I hope it's helped you sort through what you're feeling. If he doesn't want to talk about it anymore, let it go, just so long as he recognizes exactly why you're upset about it - he didn't tell you the whole story, not taking responsibility for it, acting entirely out of character (from what I can tell anyways).

And as far as the peer pressure thing, I asked Ant what he would do in a situation with all his mates trying to get him to do something he didn't want to do (I didn't describe this exact situation, but was vague about it), and he was very firm with responding, "I'd tell them to *** off!" So there you have it, how to stand up to peer pressure.

This thread has made me want to have a private word with Ant's best men about their stag do, though. I've heard stories of their friends stag dos, and sure they've involved strippers in the past, but nothing even remotely like this story!

I can't believe I was at stupid crappy work while this was going on!

Mini, can I hire you for when my OH misbehaves, please?

OP, after a few comments from you it sounded like you had already started feeling better about the whole thing. I too would have been horrendously offended and peed off and would definitely have cried about it for at least 3 or 4 days. We're girls, it's what we do! Unfortunately, my boy is also like yours and hates when I cry about things that he thinks are stupid (pretty much anything!) His response to anything negative is shouting and getting himself all worked up and in a strop. We had a massive 'thing' last year and I nearly left him over it. Even now I'm not 100% sure I believe his explanation, but as with yours, it was very out of character and I know he would never get himself in a situation like that ever again. It came down to giving up on us, losing the man I love and always having the doubt whether I did the right thing or not, or trusting him, forgiving him, moving on and being happy. I hope you get things sorted and can get excited about your wedding again

^^ This is really helpful - thankyou x

Also very helpful - thankyou x I feel much better after reading everyones comments and am starting to look forward to my wedding again - and a large glass of wine this evening!! x

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Too far in my eyes. id go mad!!! hope it doesnt ruin your big day!! :-(

xxx

Absolutely everything she said ^^^