Strangers on the evening guest list

Ah it's probably not what you want to hear but I actually don't think this is all that irrational as I would be the same. However I've personally never been to a wedding where the plus 1s are the ones causing any trouble... it's usually a drunk uncle or family members already in a bit of a rift if anything!

Is there any way you could arrange a get together with some of the people you don't know? Might be nice for them too to meet you and other people at the wedding!

Sorry I'm not much help!

Also if you're worried about drunkeness you could ask the venue not to serve doubles/jaegar bombs etc? Or if you're paying for the bar you could limit it to beer/wine/pimms/prosecco and people will have to buy their own spirits and may be less inclined to go crazy?

Like someone else said, why don't you have an informal gathering beforehand so you can meet people's plus ones? That might alleviate your fears somewhat. As for drunkenness, most people don't usually cause trouble, don't let some horror stories scare you. At my wedding my OH is fairly likely to be the problem causing drunk!

Lol, MetalBride!

Thanks guys, it's so good to get these crazy thoughts out and hear other people's thoughts on them. Hopefully everything will be OK, and if anything happens hopefully I'll be too distracted having fun to notice, lol!

If it makes you feel any better i have never met OH mum, sister or brother!!!

And his mum is sat on the top table!!

The rest of his family and friends i have only met a few and they are all invited to the day as well!!!

My experience from my own wedding is that you'll be having such a great day and you'll be so busy that you won't even notice the strangers in the evening.

If you have an opportunity to meet some of the plus ones, then a get together in advance sounds like a nice idea, but honestly if it doesn't happen, don't worry about it. It will be fine.