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Jodie, 21 February, 2025 at 17:23 Posted on Honeymoons & Getting Married Abroad 0 2

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We’ve booked our wedding for abroad… when we were looking at it last year and asked everyone said they would come now it’s come to booking it my OH mates have all now said no. I feel guilty as none of his mates are coming and just a small amount of family!
He says he isn’t bothered but I’m getting stressed that people are going to judge him and us. I have a couple of friends coming but otherwise it is mostly family. I don’t want people to think they have wasted their money coming out. It’s really starting to get me down as this is what we have always wanted to do but feel like the wedding is going to get judged because it’s so small without any of my OHs mates am I panicking over nothing or what’s peoples thoughts!

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Latest activity by James, 2 April, 2025 at 07:29

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RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 5 March, 2025 at 21:23
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If people are going to judge you for your family/friends ratio or because your wedding is 'too small', then you probably shouldn't have invited those people in the first place. Your guests are coming to support you as you start your marriage and to celebrate your wedding with you. A small wedding is going to give you more time to spend with each guest, so stop stressing and start looking forward to it!
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James · 2 April, 2025 at 07:29
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Hello,

It's completely understandable that you're feeling stressed and disappointed right now. Planning a wedding, especially an international one, is a big undertaking, and the shifting commitments from your partner's friends are certainly adding to the pressure. Here's a breakdown of why you're feeling this way and some thoughts to help you navigate it:
Why You're Feeling This Way: LowesKidsWorkshop
Expectations vs. Reality: You had a certain expectation based on initial commitments, and the reality is falling short. This discrepancy can be very upsetting.
Social Pressure: You're concerned about how others will perceive your wedding, especially your partner, and the potential for judgment. This is a common worry, particularly in social situations.
Guilt and Responsibility: You feel responsible for your partner's disappointment, even though he says he's not bothered.
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