We had our wedding a couple of months ago now and I'm struggling with the guilt of not capturing key photos with my family. Not one single photo exists of me, my wife, my mom and my dad together.....(We do appear separately)
55 people were in attendance on the day and we felt it went pretty well. It was an evening wedding with a late ceremony straight into dinner. Me and my wife were being pulled from pillar to post but managed to spend time with everyone. My mum was front and center for the day and I had some nice words in my speech along with a bunch of flowers. It honestly never dawned on me that those photos were missed.
My wife, probably just trying to comfort me thinks that it shouldn't have fallen just to me to organise those missing photos. She thinks that my mom, best men or another family member could have been proactive in making sure some decent photos were taken as we were very busy. In my heart I don't quite agree - too busy to remember a few key family photos? Only my side of family were in attendance at the wedding which is why I feel I should shoulder ultimate responsibility.
The photographer was also useless. He was obssessed with artistic pictures of inanimate objects and attempting to get all sorts of creative shots in the dark. Suffice to say none of them came out well. He had specific instructions of who people were but many groups were not captured.....
....however I feel like ultimately it was my fault. Even if the photographer is rubbish we all have camera phones these days. Now there is no picture my mom can look back on for the one time her son was married.
Am I being too dramatic? Should everything else that went well during the day involving my family count for more than what I'm feeling guilty for?
Just to stick the knife in, as my wife is foreign we are having a ceremony abroad with her mom, dad and friends. I can guarentee those family photos will not be missed.
I have since spoken to my mom to apologise. I said it wasn't my intention to miss the photos and it slipped my mind. I didn't go on the offensive with some of my wife's views on it even though I felt them a little. I think it helped but my mom is not the type to brush it off lightly. She may weaponise that failing in future (Not my fault and a whole different story!)
Am I being too hard on myself? Should I do anything else to move on from this? Do I just need to take an L on this one?
