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lilacpearl
Beginner August 2014

Sweetheart Table

lilacpearl, 4 January, 2014 at 21:00 Posted on Planning 0 14

Hi everyone,

just wanted to know if anyone else was thinking of having a 'sweetheart table' (just bride and groom rather than a 'top table'), and how it was going down with the in-laws/ bridal party??

My OH and I would like to have a table just for us, as we think so much of the rest of the day will be about mingling with our guests. We'd love time just for us - mainly to have a giggle and intimacy on our special day. Also, I'm having 6 bridesmaids and my OH is having 6 groomsmen (not conveniently 3 couples), so I think it wrong that BM/ GM should spend the wedding breakfast away from their husbands/wives!

Please let me know your thoughts. xx

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Latest activity by mooshy, 10 January, 2014 at 20:53
  • terri_cramp
    Beginner May 2015
    terri_cramp ·
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    I think that's a lovely idea, I also think that it is very important for the bride and groom to take time out together on their day... perfect opportunity I'd say.

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  • lilacpearl
    Beginner August 2014
    lilacpearl ·
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    Thank you terri_cramp,

    I hope the idea goes down as well with our families! xx

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  • Studying&Planning
    Beginner April 2014
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    Lovely lovely idea - but the meal can go on for 2 - 3 hours - that's a long time to take out just the two of you when there's so many people to spend the day with - you might find you want some different conversation (and more people to tell you how radiant you look, and how moving the ceremony was!)

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  • lilacpearl
    Beginner August 2014
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    Fair point, Studying&Planning!

    I'm more than happy to have guests come and talk to us at the table though!

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  • R
    Beginner August 2014
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    If you had all the bridesmaids and groomsmen on a top table , it would be enormous, and you wouldn't be able to talk to everyone anyway. A sweetheart table sounds good, as long as you aren't too detached from the rest of the guests - you could then have a separate top table with parents and/or people who are going to make speeches if you wanted

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  • Fran @ Hitched
    Beginner April 2012
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    I went to a wedding in America not long ago where the bride and groom had a sweetheart table. It was really well located, allowing the bride and groom to chat to the round tables around them and easily get up when they wanted to mingle between courses. The family table was located right next to the sweetheart table, making it easy for the father of the bride and best man to get up and do their speech, facing the couple, rather than be parallel to them compared to a long head table.

    A sweetheart table also provides the opportunity to put really sweet 'bride' and 'groom' decorations on the back of each chair, or on the front of the table to add extra cuteness ❤️

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  • P
    Beginner June 2015
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    I will be having a sweetheart table, as I don't want to split couples / families up. We will have round tables either side of us with our parents, bridal party etc on so will be close enough to engage with them. I love the thought of spending some quiet time with Rich too and really making our table special. I am also soon to be MOH at my brothers wedding and since I will be sitting at the top table, this means I wont be sitting with my fiancé.

    It seems you are concerned about what your families will think? It has gone down well with ours

    Good luck x

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  • lilacpearl
    Beginner August 2014
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    It's nice to know other people are considering having one too.

    Princess bride, I am doing it for the same reasons as you. I think it's unfair to split couples up for a few hours! When I was MOH for my best friend, I was able to sit with my fiancé, and would have been a bit gutted to have been sat away from him.

    ive on,y mentioned it to my sister, who doesn't like the idea herself, but is very insistent that I do what makes me happy - which is nice!

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  • rubyfirecracker
    Beginner November 2013
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    We had our own table too, although we didn't have a formal set up, just afternoon tea.

    As it wasn't formal, this meant I sat at the table for a total of about 10 minutes, necked 3 glasses of wine for my nerves and a cup of tea for good measure, then spent the rest of the time zipping around talking to everyone heheh!

    We had it because I grew up in foster care and there is way too much politics about who's most important etc. Neither of us are keen on sitting in a big line eating food looking at everyone else either! So we did what we wanted, and although H's parents probably thought it was a bit strange at first to escew tradition (as they did with many things) it was fine Smiley smile

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  • rubyfirecracker
    Beginner November 2013
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    We also had our speeches as part of the evening do (it started early at 5.30pm) so our table was moved and those giving speeches just came to the front.

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  • lilacpearl
    Beginner August 2014
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    That sounds lovely rubyfirecracker.

    I really like the idea of then having the speeches at the front!

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  • Siobhan200286
    Beginner August 2015
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    I think that's a good idea and it suits your circumstances well. Our 'top table' won't be traditional because OH's parents are separated, with partners, so we have two sets to consider from his side. So far we have come up with a combination which means the top table will be just us and the three sets of parents. Bridesmaids and groomsmen (including best man) will be seated elsewhere, but close to the top table so the best man is near the front for his speech. I don't have an MOH so I can't pick just one bridesmaid to sit on the top table to balance out the best man (none of my BMs are family, they're all friends of equal importance to me!)

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  • *MM3*
    Beginner June 2014
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    Sounds like a lovely plan! We're having a U shaped table as there's not many guests but i'd consider this if we had loads of guests.
    Gives you both nice time together but still with all your guests nearby, and you could always work your way round the tables and have a chat with all your guests in between meals or after etc. I'd go for it and don't worry about what the family think, it's your day and important you're both comfortable and happy.

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  • mooshy
    Beginner April 2014
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    I'd love to do this to avoid a few difficult seating situations (families!) but OH isn't keen at all.

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