Tasks to be done by individuals

Please don't take this the wrong way, but you sound as if you have very set ideas on how a wedding is planned which your partner doesn't seem to agree with - you have decided that apart from your own outfits and those of the bridal party, every other decision must be made jointly - but that in itself is not a joint decision if your OH does not agree with it! Also, you commented on your other post about your OH wearing a buttonhole so that he 'ties in' with the wedding party and presents a 'cohesive' look - obviously, this decision that the bride and groom need to 'tie in' with the bridal party and look cohesive has not been a joint decision since your OH doesn't agree with it!

It sounds as if you are both struggling a bit with communication and compromise. Can I ask if you have done any kind of marriage prep or pre-marriage counselling? If not, I would really encourage you to make this a priority. I know it's not nearly as much fun as designing wedding invitations or picking venues, but honestly, it will be totally worth it in the long run. So many marriages fail over poor communication, so it really is worth putting some time and effort into learning how to communicate (and disagree!) effectively, how to compromise effectively when your opinions differ and how to make sure you are on the same page on key issues as soon as possible. You will save yourself SO much stress and hassle in the long term - as well as hopefully having a smoother wedding-planning experience.