Thank you gifts?

We have bought thank you gifts for bridesmaids, groomsmen and both sets of parents as well as family members who are making the cake and doing the flowers for us but obviously that's because they are doing them as a favour.

I wanted to get something for my bridesmaids as they have all done loads and been super, I have got them a necklace each. Groomsmen to be honest have been abit useless but we felt that we had to get them something as they have given presents to their groomsmen (my OH included) on their weddings. That being said, I didn't want to spend as much on them so trawled etsy to find a bargain. It depends what they're into but there's loads of like personalised hip flasks/cufflinks etc.

We haven't got parents presents yet but thinking a bottle of something nice for dads and flowers for mums. I suppose it depends how much people have helped you out really

Our groomsmen and dads got their accessories as gifts - cufflinks, tie pins, socks.

Bridesmaids got a necklace, bracelet and hairpiece.

I made personalised tote bags for each of them and put them inside, also included smaller gifts that were more specific to the person for those who had really gone out of their way and we wanted to give a special thank you to.

Parents got an engraved wine glass/pint glass and mums got a vase and flowers the morning of the wedding.

We will be giving our bridesmaid and best man a gift. Jewellery for the bridesmaid and I'm not sure what yet for the best man. Flowers for the parents.

We have bought gifts for:

- Maid of Honour & bridesmaids - wine glass charms, prosecco, robe, personalised hanger, bracelet, personalised journal.

- Best Men, Groomsmen, both fathers - Engraved pocket watched

- Mother of the bride & Mother of the Groom - personalised vintage plates with Mother of the bride/Groom and the date with a thank you message on the back.

- Witnesses - one is also groom's sister so has a vase with Sister of the Groom on and the other has personalsied wine glass charms and a bottle of wine.

I think a token thank you gift is nice, but don't feel pressured to spend loads - we shopped around a lot to get good prices xx

I'm planning on thank you gifts for the following:

3 BMs

3 Ushers

1 Best Man

My MIL (for some DIY bits)

My FIL (for making the cake)

My dad (for some DIY bits) - I'll probably get my parents a joint gift as they are still together, but my mum will have done nothing at all for the wedding apart from cause me months of stress & grief! ☹️

My friend who's doing the flowers

I might get a little token something for the two readers, & maybe the witnesses, but it'll be like £10 each max probably!

I have two bridesmaids and we have one best man (no ushers)

neither of our parents have contributed in any way, which is fine, but people have said to me we should still get them presents to thank them for just being our parents?! Is this right?!

Thank god it is not just me! I struggle with the idea of gifts for doing a 'job' - we are having 5 bridesmaids, 2 best men, 2 ushers and between us 3 sets of parents - bearing in mind we are paying for outfits/hair/make-up/shoes/accommodation for them all so it kind of baffles me when there will be barely anything for most of them to do that I should get gifts too just because it is the done thing? I think what gets me is the expectation that is there more then the gift giving itself!

- we are not expecting anyone to contribute if they do obv it is not unwelcome and of course you would get gifts as way of thanks

I bought their dresses and shoes and bags so am only getting small presents, 10 pound engraved wine glasses each. Men are buying own suits so getting 40 pound whiskey decanters.

So now my mum has ended up going halves with me on my dress so I feel we should get her something as we will be getting our bridesmaid and best man gifts but then I'd feel bad not giving OH's mum a gift too!

So confusing!

We are paying for their hotel rooms for the night - we had it gifted to us as such for being in a bridal party and thought it was a good idea

I'm a meanie because I'm not planning on it. We'll pay for dresses, shoes, accommodation etc etc etc but I'm trying to cut out as many frilly extras (e.g. favours) as possible both to save money and prevent waste.

I hate clutter and am very non-sentimental so most gifts I get end up donated...I guess it makes me feel differently about giving too, unless I know exactly what that person wants.

What I have seen is that Mums are usually quite easily dealt with via a flower bouquet, Dads - not needed, bridesmaids prezies can be given in the morning when getting ready and also double up as part of the wedding and coordinate if you give a necklace that they all wear for the day.

Then if there are any young pageboys or flower girls you could get something for them. If you give the bridesmaids in the morning and then Mums and page/flower girl at the speeches (traditional time) then no one else (lads / Dads ) will be the wiser and wont feel left out and wont be-grudge some flowers for Mums and prezies for the kids.

We got:

Mum - flowers, mum wall hanging

Dad - personalised silver card with engraving on it

Both - thank you photoframe with their wedding photo in and a space for ours and "Mother of the Bride" and "Father of the Bride" Tshirts

Bridesmaids - personalised bridesmaid tote bags filled with personalised glasses, bridesmaid pyjamas, choclates, photo frame and other small token gifts

Flowergirls - frame with paper flowers in that said thank you for being our flowergirls

MiL - flowers

Best men and groomsmen - aftershave and beers in personalised case

I dont think there is any set "rule" just do what yo can afford for the people you would like to thank x

We just got gifts for the bridesmaids. Groom didn't really know what the best men would like and I had enough to organise. We weren't getting married in the same place as our accommodation so we didn't want to get big bouquets that would need moving by car. It was just a chilled, quite non-traditional day so the giving of gifts in the middle of it all just wasn't for us.

My bridesmaids got Kate Spade bangles, by the way, and some of them chose to wear them on the day. I got each one a different bangle.