The politics of invitations

I was in the same boat; I have a very large family in regards to cousins, and we decided to invite only a couple that we really wanted there. You've got to do what makes you happy; it would be silly to cover expense for people that you rarely see. Don't feel like you have to invite them all just because they're family

I think you can get away with it as long as there is a really clear division in the amount of contact you have between the ones you invite and the ones you don't.

I only invited some of my uncles and aunts. The ones I invited, I see multiple times a year and message or call in between and they had all met my OH. The ones I didn't invite, I hadn't seen for a couple of years, they had never met my OH and our only communication was the annual Christmas card. A couple did complain that they weren't invited, but I've continued to get the annual card from them since, so I guess they weren't too offended!

We chose to invite only a number of people we truly wanted there, and I was in a similar situation; my cousin count is quite high. Do what makes you happy; it's pointless to shell out cash for individuals you barely see. It's not necessary to invite everyone in your family simply because they are relatives. rocket fortress