Thursday weddings

Oh yeah l also forgot to suggest try to give people as much notice as possible. We sent our invited out 6 weeks in advance

A close frienship of mine nearly ended because of the assumption that "those who want to be there will." I just couldn't. Financially, and practially I couldn't make it. Doesn't mean I didn't care. Personally I'm not a huge fan of weekday weddings but the area me and lots of my friends work in means there will always be people who can't come. We gave lots of notice to try and mitigate this, but I won't be offended if people can't come.

The point isn't that some people won't be able to make whatever date you pick, it's the assumption that if someone doesn't make it, it's because they don't "really want to" or the event isn't important enough to them. Sometimes despite the best will in the world and a load of shift swaps, it just can't be done. Doesn't mean that they don't care about the wedding.

For a number of reasons we got married on the wednesday after easter, two weeks ago - whoop . We gave people 15 months notice and everyone came. All had a long journey and had two nights stay. They came to North Wales from North and South Yorkshire, Nottinghamshire, France and Bulgaria. Then ten days later for our after party on Saturday night just gone, people again came from all over, streching from Bulgaria, Aberdeen to Cornwall. Our decision to get married on the date we did had nothing to do with the cost, but when it would suit most people and taking into consdieration our older kids who have exams and the like so a term time wedding was out. Those who could make it did. All invitees came to the main event, we knew not everyone would be able to make the later party due to shifts/childcare/prior arrangements etc and graciously accepted when they said they couldn't come.

Those who can come will come, no matter what day it is, those who can't for whatever reason, simply can't. You have to decide what's important to you, sving money, having a date that eans something to you, or working around your guests so more can be there. For us it was about making it easier for people to be there which we did, hence they were all able to come. If you know your plans will be difficult for people then you have to accept that for those people, they will not be able to make it. You cannot expect people to put their jobs on the line or bankrupt themselves for any wedding.

I truly believe that it is your job to make it as easy as possible for your guests, they are your guests with busy lives, you do not have any right to expect people to cow tow to your wedding. I would carefully look at your guest list and consider if a weekday wedding would be difficult for them, especially the key guests. Chat with those you think might find it difficult and see what they say. Often just involving people like this shows you've considered them rather than just issuing a dictat and encourages them to put a little more effort in

^^^THIS^^^

i know people who have CRIED about missing a wedding, but it was attend the wedding or lose their job! and i'm sorry but in the current job market people can't afford to throw away a job for one afternoon, lest they be labelled a bad friend who doesn't care!

I can't say I'm a fan of week days weddings because I have such limited annual leave anyway. Having said that the ones I have gone to are just as much fun as a Saturday wedding and at least you then have a long weekend to recover. It was never an option for us to have anything other than a weekend because of I have loads of teacher friends. I think you have to look at your guest list and see if it works for you personally and as with all weddings (regardless of the day) don't be offended if people can't make it x