Tiny Wedding

Hiya,

Welcome to hitched. I didn't have a tiny wedding, but it wasn't big by anyones standard....just close family and very close friends. Getting married isn't about how big and fab your wedding is(although it is nice), its about confirming you love for each other and committing to each other for the rest of your life. All that matters is that the people who are most important are there - you and H2B.

WElcome to Hitched

There was someone posting about a no guest wedding on here the other day.

Exchanging your vows and making that commitment to each other is the main point of the day.

When are you planning on getting married?

My cousin is just having parents and siblings (and their partners) at his wedding. They are then going to have a big evening reception for everybody else in a marquee in his fiancee's parents garden.

Hi ya

Plenty of people have had small weddings and I've planned a few where it's been immediate family and then we've planned a big party afterwards or later in the year just as Kelly28 mentioned. If you explain to people that you're not planning on having a big wedding due to either budget or venue restrictions then most people understand this. If they don't, then that's their problem and not yours. Don't at any point let anyone pressure you into inviting people because they think they should be there. It's your guest list and your decision. No matter how big or small your wedding is, it's the committment made on the day and the having your nearest and dearest there to help celebrate. You'll have a wonderful day.

Ruth

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I completely agree with Ruth (Finesse): I am seeing more and more small, intimate weddings now and more people seem to be going for this option.

We did the same for our own wedding, just inviting a small number of guests for the day time, through till the evening. We explained to people that we were on a budget and they understood.

All the best with your planning and have a wonderful day ?

Hi,

At my Wedding there will be me and H2B, and my mum and stepdad. I didn't want a massive wedding, so we're going abroad to combine it with a Holiday.

We're having a really informal party when we get back, but not inviting everyone and have been stressing to them all its a party, not a formal reception.

Its your day, so don't worry about having to invite everyone. x

Hi,

I am having a no guest wedding. Getting married on 28th April. We're not telling anyone till after we're married! Well OH has told his work but that's cos he works in a Tailors and will be hiring his suit from them!

Where are you planning on getting married? We are getting married in a registry office.

If you have no guests who will you have for witnesses? We still haven't quite figured this out yet. When I go to the registry office to give notice I am going to ask if they have anyone spare lol.

KATxx

Hi

My BIL got married a few weeks back and only had 40 in total including the wedding party (which consisted of 17 people)

So really only 23 guests. There was none of their friends at the wedding as they simply couldn't afford it so it was parents, grandparents, siblings (wedding party) and aunts and unlces.

He had 2 best men, my H and their cousin. I was the only partner of anyone in the wedding party invited even the other best man's wife didn't get an invite and the only reason I got invited was because my PIL fought with them about it and in the end had to pay for my meal

Hi I only had a TIny wedding, it was just me, H and both sets of parents. It was really lovely to just be us although really i would have liked it alot smaller. totally stress free aswel!

Our wedding is going to be relatively small, just me, H2B and 25 guests! I'm looking forward to it being cosy and intimate, and it also keeps costs down!

My sister had only immediate family and their partners at her wedding in Italy (20 of us in total, including the bride and groom). It was a fabulous ceremony and when she got back from her honeymoon, she had an evening reception for 200.

Worked really well for her as she'd have hated having loads of people looking at her walking down the aisle!

We invited only immediate family and close friends which was about 50 people in the end.

I think a very small, intimate ceremony is a great idea, no stress over the ceremony and details, and you could always go for an informal party afterwards if you wanted to keep costs down.

My brother's wedding was him, his now wife, her 2 daughters, my parents, my husband and I. And it was lovely.

Hi there

Welcome to Hitched! We are having 13 guests for the ceremony, and effectivley they will all have a role. Then another 40 odd for the meal, and another 15 ish for the eveing part. We want to keep it personal ?

Thank you all for your comment.

We are planning to get married on 27th August in the registry office with my other halfs dad and my cousin as our witnesses. Afterwards we are planning to have an afternoon BBQ so that the 14 children in the family can be there.

My partners mother died about 3 years ago so the whole big and fancy affair doesnt mean as much to her now as i it may ahve once done.

Plus, with limited budget, moving home and planning for a baby, the money we do have will be spread pertty thin!

I had a tiny wedding (20 people including us) and going against the grain here hated it. We arranged it in 4 weeks flat as I found out I was pregnant with our first son so I had no proper dress, no real reception, speeches, cake, photographer, first dance etc etc etc. I know most peole say it's all about the vows and we're celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary this year so all is well but I just feel I missed out so how. We're going to the Maldives in August and we're renewing our wedding vows at the same and this time I'm going to be wearing a proper wedding gown at last.

Just make sure it's what you want and that years down the line you won'e feel like your missing out.

Good luck with your plans.

wow essex mum , renewing your vows in the malidives sounds fantastic!!!

Small weddings are often criticised for "missing out" on the things that EM has just mentioned but it is something that R & I have thought about alot, we wanted approx 30 people but in the end our families took over and it has become a traditional wedding......

Hi welcome to hitched.

we were going for a big traditional wedding until i had a eureka moment and now we're only having my grandparents, both sets of parents, my 4 brothers and their partners + 12 friends. i have a massive family so no aunties, uncles or cousins. we're having a church wedding followed by a meal then a huuuuge party at night.

With 6 weeks to go I can utterly say I wish we were having a tiny one. I am sick to the eye teeth of every family member (mine and his) making thier mouth go. I cannot do ANYTHING right.. every decsion we have made has been critized.

This morning I told H2B I want to cancel it and just do it on the honeymoon ?

Oh Jo Claire - I am so sorry to hear this, sounds like you need a break away from planning ?