'Tit for Tat' Wedding Invites?

You won't but your H2B might! ?

I dont know if there is a proper etiquette on this, but imagine its polite to ask them, if they asked you. It would however depend on budget and if you actually get on with her or she will know anyone other your OH's sister. I am not inviting a few people on principal, even though I was invited to theirs. I sent money with the RSVP as coudlnt go, & despite several emails to check she got it, never heard a thing! Really rude I thought so they are off my list of invites.

Ive met her properly once, il always say hi in passing if i see her but never stop to chat....neither does OH really. Ohhhh bums :/

There are people I am not inviting even though I went to their weddings. These wedding were a few years ago though, so it's a bit easier not to as we've lost touch. Difficult one really.

I'm not sure what ettiqute says but I felt I had to invite an ex colleague to our wedding in Aug '11 who invited us to theirs in Aug '10. Slightly annoyed as we only have all day invites and we were only her evening guest.

I wouldn't have bothered Kayl, and just would have explained that it was a small gathering etc, hence no evening invites.

I did think that, but she will see the pics online and know I am lying... And as much as I don't count her as a close friend, she is still a friend if I needed her IYSWIM?

She is also very good friends with one of my BMs.

If I were you, I would decline her invite. Then you won't feel bad about not inviting her to yours. Don't invite her just for the sake of it!

Kayl, if you aren't having evening guests and you were only an evening guests then you should not feel compelled to invite them yours. Just say that you both have big families and you haven't got space. That covers having a big wedding yet not inviting.

I personally would feel obliged to ask them.....

The title of this thread conjured up all sorts of images for me!! ?

Regards your OP though, I wouldn't. I would probably decline theirs as well. We had an invite to some old family friend's last year and couldn't go and tbh I don't think we've even thought about inviting them at all!

I wouldn't feel like I had to invite someone just because I was invited to their wedding. I think budget and numbers have a lot to do with it... we're only having 45 close family & friends so we're only inviting people we really really want to. Some people on the other hand can invite 200 people because they want a big do and have the budget for that size of wedding.

I certainly wouldn't be offended if someone on my guest list didn't invite me to their wedding, I would assume they'll invite who they want based on the size of their wedding/budget and not be worried if that doesn't include me.

Ahhh Flow Im in a similar situation. Last year a girl who Im not that close to at work invited me and OH to their wedding for the whole day which we attended and I might add was the only one invited from work!

Me and OH are getting married next year but havent put her and OH down on the day invites - only the evening. This is mainly because of budget - we havent even got all our cousins etc coming as there is too many of them for the day, also another reason is I have 5 friends I am very close to at work but if i invite them and their partners there is another 10 people again which we cant afford. Also I am alot closer to the 5 girls that the ones whos wedding was last year so if I had a choice Id have them over her. I just hope shes not dissappointed that shes not invited to the day - only the evening but I have a feeling shes expecting a day invite as we were invited to hers :/

Tricky one…..it all depends on what type of wedding you are having. We are not having a separate day do or evening do and only 80 guests in total so there is no room to add on extra people that neither of us really know, whereas if you are having a separate evening do then doing that might be easier?

To be honest I have become pretty ruthless about the guest list (and this is even before the invites have gone out!) and if someone that we knew vaguely invited us to their wedding I wouldn’t feel obliged to invite them to ours, but saying that, if we didn’t really know them, I probably wouldn’t be that interested in actually going to their wedding either!

I would politely decline that I had plans that day. Wish them well and then not invite them back lol

How annoying! Personally, as long as numbers allow it, if it were me I would have them as my day guests.

Have you spoken to OH's parents about it, I just think it may be embarrassing for them if an invite is not "reciprocated" to this couple and they still live next door to the bride's parents.

If you decide you def don't want to have them as day guests to yours, then as others have suggested, I would refuse their invitation, buy a them a half decent present and hope it all goes away before your invites are sent out!

I would also decline their invite and then you don't have to invite them either.

We have a few people that we considered acquaintances but had invitations too their whole wedding! We just invited them to the evening do. It's your OH that will take the flack not you though!

I'm another that would decline their invite, then wouldnt invite them to mine

Hey up mardy bum face! lol

Id be inclined not to go to theirs or make up an excuse that will only allow you to attend the evening.

Either way I certainly wouldnt invite her all day to yours.

Will you be moving in with OH when you get married or finding another place together? If your both moving to a new place place then I wouldnt worry too much about it as your not really going to see her or her parents much again I would imagine.

And then you could invite me!!!!!

xxx

As others have said I would decline their invite and therfore not feel obliged to invite them to yours. Either that or i'd invite them just to my evening do.

wtf!? i live with OH u silly mare!! her parents live next door to OH parents, i see where you got confused there lol ?

? Oooooppppssss!!

You know I thought you lived with your OH!! But just thought I was wrong which I usually am!!

But you do waffle on Flow!! lol?

Right got to stop drinking Rose when OH is away!!?

and start drinking when YOUR away in Brum!

Why is it terrible and childish ? I actually think it would be rude to accept and not invite them back. If you don't accept they have the opportunity to invite someone else who would reciprocate. Given the tentative connection they may be inviting them at the wishes of the parents anyway.

For sure!! Just give me the bottle and a straw!! Hic

OT but just realise only 7 months to our wedding as I read that back lol !

I'd probably just cave and invite them tbh. That said, I am a total wuss about refusing to invite people and so have at least a dozen people on my guest list that I've never even met :-S